“Gross” people who are “worse” than others deserve love, too.
You can work on unpacking your negative opinions about yourself, but love, kindness, compassion, friendship, intimacy, and all that good stuff, is something you deserve. You don’t earn it, you’re human and you need it. That’s all it takes to merit it.
You can meet interesting people, but ultimately it’s based on superficial connections.
Typically, the cis woman experience is about filtering, while the cis man experience is about casting as wide of a net as possible.
You could potentially have a dick-pic free experience if you’re able to curate and filter enough, but be prepared for an exhausting or donging experience.