mjsaber

joined 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Those are the democratic party elite. We can no more remove them than remove one's own head.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

I'm a nurse with 2 degrees- I'll be an asset anywhere I go. Or I can go back to bartending - I make a mean Hot Toddy.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago

Our party? Democrats are no more my party than Republicans are. They are objectively the better option for someone like me given the alternative, but in no way do they represent me. They are just another element of the capitalist corporate hegemony, and I'm just a consumer to them.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

Seems a lot harder to get across the ocean than into Canada, but I will take any viable option at this point.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago

I'm in Minnesota, if you can make it up here I'll take you with me.

[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 day ago (16 children)

How do I request asylum in a country that doesn't want to erase trans people?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Sealab was such a good show. A Star Trek remake (with Shatner as Kirk) would be so good.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

What wonderful, flippant advice. Thanks, I'm not lonely anymore!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (4 children)

I've been struggling like usual. Trying to meet some people so I'm not always alone, but wow, some of the folks I'm meeting are exhausting to be around.

It's been a long time since I've had a friend I can just hang out with and feel like it's not work.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago

It's very difficult, and in the end, it comes down to finding things that work for you, but in my experience, doing it "on my own" is virtually impossible. Humans need social interaction and often help, especially when battling with mental illness. That being said, there are some things that help most people.

  1. Exercise - you don't need to run a marathon or lift free weights, but any kind of exercise, including walking, can have a big boost on mental health. If you can, working up a sweat can help release more endorphins (and also helps motivate me to take a shower when I'm struggling with hygiene).

  2. Sleep - prioritize getting good sleep. This has a huge effect on your mental health, and lack of sleep makes intrusive thoughts more difficult to ignore. If you suffer from suicidal ideation, this can be very beneficial. It can also help set up a routine for exercise, hygiene, etc. if you have more consistent bed and awake times.

  3. Eating healthy- this is hard, because often when depressed we go for unhealthy foods, which make us feel bad, so we eat more of them and it perpetuates the cycle. If you really struggle with this start by making small changes - find a fruit or vegetable you genuinely enjoy and start incorporating more into your diet. Learning some basic cooking skills can also make healthy eating more enjoyable.

  4. reduce drug and alcohol use (if any) - these can be excellent short term solutions, but will often make you feel worse in the long run

  5. find someone to talk to - online resources help, but there's no substitute for genuine in person (or over the phone) interaction. This can be harder said than done if you're older or in an area where it's hard to meet people. Support groups are also excellent- there's something very empowering about being surrounded by folks experiencing the same challenges you do every day.

  6. practice gratitude- take some time every day to thing of things you are genuinely thankful for. Supposedly, the brain can't think or negative things while you are thinking of positive ones. Even if that's not true, taking time to appreciate the good things in your life (even if it's something small like your morning coffee) can help redirect your thought process.

Lastly, understand you can do all the "right" things to battle depression and still be depressed. No amount of exercise or vegetables will suddenly make you better - you will likely still have bad days. That's why, for me, it's important to have people I know I can call and talk to (my brother being a big one right now). We don't even really talk, I just call him and cry talk for a bit and eventually it doesn't hit so hard.

Give yourself some credit for all the bad days you've been through- if you weren't strong, you wouldn't have made it this far. Good luck! I'm rooting for you!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

It's not just the Maga hats. There is a substantial amount of the population that thinks claims like this are just muckracking by "the other side", and that he is really the better candidate in terms of economy, border security, and traditional values.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

My recommendation is either The Grand Budapest Hotel or Moonrise Kingdom. Both by Wes Anderson, and probably his two best films. Excellent director with a very distinct visual style.

 

Looking for ideas of where to move next. Places in the US that are lgbt friendly, and preferably have good trans healthcare. I'll probably never be able to move to any of them, but it would be nice to pretend for a little while.

 

I'm so tired of the healthcare system. I work as a nurse for one of the largest and most reputable organizations in the US. And getting culturally competent care is ridiculous. There are only 2 providers in the entire organization who are willing to take trans patients, and I'm outside of their geographic area (never mind the fact I was given a referral by the trans specialty clinic when I explained I don't need transition services, just a doctor that knows the basics of lgbtq health).

I know people have it worse than me, but it's still bullshit I can't just call and make an appointment. This is already the third round of calls I've had to make just to get an appointment set up.

I think the worst part is I had a job in gender affirming care I was fired from (for daring to suggest we have signs for our clinic, or trans patients be able to call the regular line). I loved the work and the patients, and it felt so good to be able to help people like me get the care they need in a respectful and competent manner. But now I'm back to taking care of old, entitled, and almost exclusively white cis het patients. I hate being part of a system that perpetuates disparities, but I'm stuck because I can't find any way to provide this care without earning another degree.

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

Not sure if this is the place to post, but I've moved a lot recently and there aren't really any queer folks where I live. I'm looking for some kind of discord or something to chat and vent and just feel a little less alone.

I'm pretty old and I've "completed" my transition, and I'm always happy to share my experiences or knowledge if people are interested.

And apologies if this isn't the right spot for this post.

 

Moved up to the "Big City" in October. Today I was fired by a woman with a smile on her face.

My biggest complaints were being isolated from my peers, not having enough work to do, and not receiving feedback on my work performance directly.

I was accused of working outside of scope, not being able to separate my personal feelings from work, and not responding to doctors in a timely fashion. No specific or documented instances of any of these accusations were provided to me.

So now I'm alone, in a way more expensive city, with about the same amount it cost to move here left in the bank.

I think I'm done with healthcare. As a trans person, working inside of it is fucking awful, especially in large hospital organizations. I don't think it helps I graduated from nursing school in 2020.

What now? This was my dream job, at an organization (I thought) had their shit together. It was a nightmare on the inside - no support, no community. Call staff couldn't "handle" trans patients, so we have to call a separate line that might have someone call you back.

I came up with so many ideas, ways to improve, best practices we aren't following. Patients getting dead named and misgendered in charts, at the pharmacy, to their face. Asleep in the OR during surgery.

I've never been more confused about a job ending. I literally said I would do anything, work overtime, adapt my style, learn 6 different specialties, anything I could to help.

They never even listened to me. Why did they bring me all this way just to ignore me?

The worst part, I think, is that I don't know if I will ever really trust another human the same way. I thought this was a safe place where I could talk openly about what was deficient, and how to alleviate that. But I did that, and they didn't want to hear it, and now I'm on my own again.

I really thought we could build something truly special. I guess I'm just disappointed I'll never get a chance to see what that could have been.

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Grammar rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

Come correct or don't cum at all.

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White sauce rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

I'd say about 100% of my woes could be solved by covering me in a creamy, white sauce.

 

I just got my dream job helping run a trans healthcare program, and I'm looking for input from the community on on what would make you feel more comfortable or engaged with your medical provider. We provide everything from HRT to surgery to non-trans medical care. My goal is to have the happiest, healthiest patients in the country!

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