To be fair, I also respond poorly to merely exiting my front door. So.

Gross; Vancouver's where I keep my stuff!:( Like my cat and my body and my home. I don't want apologists like this in my city.

Producers too, like music producers I mean. Though I can only speak to that field personally, it might be a similar situation, so I'll share.

Well actually, I mean I guess it's two things- one is that a male-dominated field with a lot of egos involved can pretty easily develop in a snooty direction. STEM careers are famous for that as well. It blows.

The second thing, the thing I was initially going to mention is that at least in the case of producing, there is an epic shitton of information you need to learn to do it well/properly, for starters. Even to just make your first piece, you need to actually STUDY it. That attracts two different archetypes, and the one that sucks is the overwhelming majority. :(

So, as you can probably imagine it's super easy to find courses/tutorials online to learn stuff; you can find the whole field plus music theory on YouTube for free. The problem is that a lot of beginners don't bother to do that, and/or don't think they'll need to. Unfortunately, it's these lazy fucking casuals that saturate all our "ask someone who knows" spaces with asinine, uniformed nonsense questions.

So you see, by the time you see a question from a legitimate learner, sometimes even a peer, you're so annoyed by the other sort that you can't sort them.

That's not fair to the legitimate learners, of course (and as someone who is not yet a full-on expert, I've been on the wrong end of this myself), but thats the sad state of things.

"Growing a thicker skin", or so I'm told, is the only solution. :(

Drugs, honestly, but I strongly caution against that route.

I feel you though; I really do have no one, and I literally mean no one, to talk to. I was in a long term relationship until recently, and because I let him become my whole world, now that he's gone I have no one in my life at all.

I'm also on permanent disability due to lyme disease, and have to get all my groceries delivered because its too hard for me a lot of the time to go get them myself. Thus, literal weeks often go by without me having a reason to step outside, or talk to another human.

I'm sure my neighbours in the adjacent suites think im a psychopath for talking to my cat like she's a person every day, but if I didn't I might forget how to talk, lol.

So, how do I cope, when its not drugs (though it's usually drugs)? Well, I don't really, but because I believe so strongly in my version of the theory of quantum immortality, I feel I can't kill myself because anything I'd try, I'd survive. I'd be guaranteed to just end up with brain damage or a worse physical disability or something if I get any more serious with my suicide attempts. Essentially, it's only for that I have no choice but to go on, that I go.

Oh, fun fact- this recent ex of mine, we were broken up over Christmas last year too, so I'm going on my second year of a zero human contact Christmas.

In the words of Aesop Rock, Jesus Christ my life is dismal.

One time, I had to have IV antibiotics for a dental infection, which meant having to be at the hospital for like a half hour every four hours, which sucked. After a couple days of this, praying to get switched to tablets, a doc finally saw me.

He walks into the room where I was waiting and the first thing he said was, "so, how about we try oral?", and I was like, "slow down, doc, I just met you." 😂

Swear to god, it did mot register whatsoever that I had made a joke. He responded like I had said slow down the switch to oral medication! I guess maybe he could have just been embarrassed and was trying to duck the moment, but idk. I thought it was a solid joke.

So that one speaker took over for the entire world when we were done playing it 24/7, collectively?

That's kind of inspiring. You go little speaker! ☺️

Muscles don't keep you warm in freezing ocean water! Blubber does that.

...Man I wish I had a bulletproof excuse like that.

I see a lot of people pointing out how autism is a spectrum disorder, so it would have a bunch of different presentations already.

That's true of course, but spectrum disorders typically have a set of core symptoms, and regardless of your particular presentation you need to experience all or most of them to meet the criteria for an affirmative diagnosis.

For example, My partner and I both have ADHD; the two opposing classic "types", (inattentive and hyperactive). There are a number of symptoms that relate to his type that don't apply to me, and vice versa. We also have different ways we've grown up trying to compensate for our symptoms, so they have different effects on us.

Undeniably though, we both experience all 7 core symptoms.

If scientists are making this claim, they must be saying that their research on ASD suggests they found there to be no definite core symptoms.

It would be crazy dumb otherwise to announce their findings studying a spectrum disorder, if their findings were, "it appears to be a spectrum disorder".😂

Hm...I don't know. I think terrible names are popular enough presently that when the generation being born right now is school-aged, a McKeinsleigh will probably need to use a last initial in class to not get her confused with the other one(s).

I'm going to share some truths here, like some detailed scientific truths about all that, and it's stuff everybody should know. And you can trust me; I've been in the business of doing it (er, not the literal "business" of doing it...well not the whole time, anyway) for almost 25 years now.

Here's one very valuable thing to know: the average depth of a vagina is around 4-5 inches. If you're really long, (and even just 6" can be "really long" for shallower vaginal depths) you can easily go too deep during vaginal sex and hit our cervix, which can REALLY hurt.

One past partner of mine in particular had over 9 inches, and there were a few positions we tried that I could do with others but we couldn't do because it just made him hit too deep and it hurt.

So, more length in inches, even when women think they want that, it's not necessary after a certain, close to average amount of inches.

Now, when it comes to girth, that's a different story. But a bit more on that in a second; I need to explain something about vaginas first:

So, although the notion that vaginas "loosen" over time with repeated use is a complete myth, a spectrum of natural tightness for vaginas does exist. It relates to female bone structure around the hips and pelvis. The bones can spread/flare out more, or be closer together. A woman with a natural thigh gap, for example, is an example of more far apart bones, meaning less natural tightness in her pussy.

...which makes it kind of funny that thigh gaps were a beauty trend all women seemed to want for a while. Vindication for any woman reading this that beat herself up back then for failing to develop a thigh gap after trying so hard to. Now you know, not your fault, it was your super tight pussy getting in the way!😉

Ok, now back to chodes! You see, since some vaginas are naturally less tight, in order to achieve a comparable amount of stimulation to a woman who is tighter, the only statisDick that matters in her case is girth, not length. A 4 inch dick that's really thick versus a 9 inch dick that isn't, whem it comes to this woman, the 4 inch would provide better stimulation!

But don't despair if yours is not super girthy though, because like I mentioned there are naturally extra tight vaginas out there that an average girth is totally enough for. I should know. 😛

My cat Lucy likes to catch mice outside, bring them inside to show me so she can show off her skills, and then accidentally let them go so it falls on me to handle them.

And I mean...it sucks when we're talking actual mice but like...the other thing... I really wouldn't complain at this point if they were to...fall on me to handle 😂

'Cause tbh, I haven't seen one of those hanging out in my bedroom for way too long. And if the cat could just catch them and bring them to me? I could delete all the apps. Dream come true.

Someone explained in a reel that I saw once that the reason we feel like this is because we struggle with transitions.

It made a lot of sense; like as to why I take so long to leave my bed for the first time after I wake up, or why I can never motivate myself to go walk outside, but when I'm already outside walking because I was forced to be, I'll walk 20 blocks to the grocery store to avoid having to sit down and be still for 10 minutes waiting for the bus.

PS: I've only been using Lemmy for something like 10 minutes total so far, only heard of it 15 minutes ago, and this is my first ever comment here, so if I'm making any dumb mistakes with formatting, or if say my comment ends up in the wrong place or something, it's because I haven't learned the platform's ins and outs yet. Plz no judge. Reddit was really judgmental today and that's why I came here.