I made a major improvement in my ability to not give a fuck about my job.
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I work in American retail.
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I made a major improvement in my ability to not give a fuck about my job.
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I work in American retail.
I didn't know you could insert that here. I just needed that on my previous comment.
Thanks.
i made a person
Congratulations! Me too!
Congratulations! Me three!
that's always a good time
next few years will be busy
I made the decision to go back to school. There were various life reasons why I was unable to make that decision in my 20's, but I am happy to have the opportunity to learn again with a renewed sense of drive and direction.
Hey there, I went back at 33, and it took me 4 years to get my AA. But I did it, and got a job that more than doubled what I was making before.
You're going to love classes in your 30s! It's so fun to learn, and you'll make friends with your teachers. It was hard at times, but it felt really good to accomplish! If you need support to talk about it, r/backtoschool was a great place for me to vent or ask for advice.
My parents officially cut the life line -- I didn't need their money anymore and they're retired now.
But it made me take stock of my expenditure in a way I hadn't previously.
That's super cool that you think that's positive.
I met a wonderful woman. We are dating now
For complicated reasons over which we have had very little control, we have had to move house 3 times in the last 5 years.
In April of this year, thoigh, we finally found somewhere that we both really love and which should be pretty much permanent. I am very happy about that.
Moving sucks so much, and can be extremely emotionally and physically disruptive for a lot of people. So, massive congratulations π
I got an invitation from someone I had been talking to online to come and have dinner with their family. It. Was. Awesome. I got a tour of their gardens, talked pest management, chicken composting, and propagation strategies, got a ukulele concert from their usually shy daughter with some special medical needs (and got to play something for her on the instrument she never shares), and had a lovely meal from their garden. Oh, and we traded plants and cuttings with each other to help diversify our gardens (and who they support)!
I got hella teeth pulled.
I know it sounds terrible, but it really needed to happen. I'm waiting on my bone grafts to set before starting on my first set of implants. Even with my plastic partials, it's a whole new world. I don't think I had cracked a genuine smile since highschool. Now I can't stop.
My car was totaled and I walked away.
Bought a house and started my dream job
I started turning away from atheism. I've always wanted to believe in God but i was literally unable to.
it is really bugging me that you are getting heavily downvoted for this. it's not like you are actively proselytizing here. i am sorry people are so shitty.
i think belief in (some type of) god is probably pretty healthy. unfortunately, my life experience has led me to a failure to believe in anything at all.
anyways.... you do you. be well.
i did not say "atheism bad". sure, i dont agree with a lot of atheist beliefs, but the last thing i want to do is spread hate.
and, if you feel good about yourself, "failure to believe in anything" might not actually be a failure. π
What are atheist beliefs? I thought being atheist just meant you were non-religious?
As someone who has found a faith that works for me, personal, nonreligious and without a figurehead god, I've seen a lot of concrete benefits from exploring different ways of walking through reality. For me there was a huge difference between the sensation of feeling like a cosmic fluke, blown around in a confusing and random reality, and finding a way to feel like I'm an integral part of time and space.
It was a decision I had to make, years ago, for my own well-being. I've seen many others make their own personal, spiritual changes, for similar reasons to mine. Some move away from their childhood religions, towards faith structures that feel more healthy to them. Some return to theirs. I've also known people who've found meaning, comfort and purpose through studied, focused atheism and agnosticism.
You can probably tell by my tone that I'm not a big fan of organized religion. Any god that can be boxed up isn't really what I'm looking for. That said, I know from personal experience how powerful that sort of change in perspective can be. It's exactly the type of thing that could find high ranks in one's best of the year list.
Happy New Year!
Definitely would like some more detail on this.
Are we thinking in the short or long term here?
Short term (enjoyment for this year): I bought a motorcycle, something I've wanted to do for years but finally had the money and independence to do so this year
Long term (this will affect my future life in a good way): I got a summer research internship as a college student, which gives me valuable experience for later in life
Everything sucked. 2023 was a calamity for me. I lost my best friend, I had a burnout, I got sick a lot, and it forced me to take 2 full weeks off to take care of myself in early December.
Those 2 weeks for myself are arguably the best thing I had this year however. I'll try to repeat this every year.
That sounds a lot like my 2022. Burnout is rough, I still feel I'm not fully where I want to be. I'm glad you were able to get some rest, and I hope 2024 is kinder to you
Well... there's not much. I have 2 nominations. They're not much, but it's something.
Discovering https://free-mp3-download.net/
I used to download low quality music from YouTube. Now I get FLACs.
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I got to ride an old ZSSK 012 carriage. It's not comfortable, and it's also quite loud inside, but there's passenger seats in the back. The view makes it really worth it.
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There's also possibly another one, but I'll just keep that one in my head. It's a bit weird.
My daughter (born 3 months early in mid-2022) was discharged from needing oxygen 24/7. After months of having to lug her tank and pulse oximeter around everywhere, even across a room, a wireless baby was a game-changer.
She's made huge progress in so many other ways, but this was the big one for us
I actually followed through on my "lose weight" resolution and dropped about 50lbs and put on some muscle.
I started therapy again and it's really helped me put the work in and learn to forgive the weird shit in my childhood. Feels good, mayn!
I started volunteering at a childrenβs theatre. Just finished the third of three production runs, seeing kids from 8 to 18 astound audiences with performances that surpass professional productions Iβve seen. Itβs renewed my belief in the power of the arts to change lives, when my whole training and professional life has been in the sciences.
My eldest daughter is doing so well in violin that her school had to create a special level just for her and is busing her around to other string groups in the district for performances so they sound better.
So proud of that kid.
I got a job that doubled my income and gave me the free time to do things like start a garden, learn macrame and spend a lot more uninterrupted time with my family. It was really life changing.
If I could undo this year I might though. I had 5 family members die including my grandma who raised me, my wife and I had a devastating miscarriage, my causing got hit by a car and may not be able to walk, I was diagnosed with a heart condition and put on lifelong medication and still might need open heart surgery, my deadbeat dad got out of jail and has been harrasing my mom and sister, and the icing on the cake, last week our best cat died.
Got to see the northern lights together with my so!
I made the first step in starting my own company. 2024 Iβll be working on getting more clients so that I can quit my 9-5
I went fishing.
I got a promotion, from a drafter to a designer. :)
I got accepted for my master's degree abroad, it's been a blast so far
This year has been a bit mundane. Good has been a steady stream with no particular highlights. Not complaining. I like stability.
Quit my corporate job for a small place with a mission to do good. Never going back to bigtech.
I keep killin' it in my easy af graduate program.