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Anyone else try to show Lemmy to their friends only for the wrong side of Lemmy to scare them off? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by imeansurewhynot@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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My friend's on reddit a lot, uses it for support questions and reviews mostly, but got fed up with the bullshit toxicity there.

A few days ago I suggested she check out Lemmy, there's less content, but generally fewer toxic communities and we scrolled a bit.

She checked it out, didn't understand a meme on WomensStuff, had me ask them about it, and was so put off by their responses that was the end of lemmy for her.

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[-] Bluetreefrog@lemmy.world 17 points 1 week ago

Not an open-ended question. Also, a dumpster fire in the comments. Locking.

[-] velma@sh.itjust.works 28 points 1 week ago

She checked it out, didn’t understand a meme on WomensStuff, had me ask them about it, and was so put off by their responses that was the end of lemmy for her.

You're not even being clever here. You were banned from that community three days ago for breaking the rules. Does this "friend" live in Canada?

[-] EmilieEasie@fedinsfw.app 17 points 1 week ago

She goes to a different school. You wouldn't know her 🙃

[-] Return_of_Chippy@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

What does "the wrong side of lemmy" consist of?

[-] velma@sh.itjust.works 12 points 1 week ago

Women.

[-] Return_of_Chippy@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago

I'd have expected a .ml type of thing. Cringe. I don't know the lore behind this user but I'm guessing they were being a prick in womensstuff and this is now trolling/bait.

[-] velma@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 week ago

You would be correct.

[-] Kolanaki@pawb.social 9 points 1 week ago

Literally nobody I know IRL other than my sister uses social media at all. And my sister is exclusively on Imgur, like some kind of freak.

[-] MyBrainHurts@piefed.ca 5 points 1 week ago

Yup. A fairly normie friend liked the idea of switching from reddit. She blithely assumed as a virulently anti trump Democrat, she was a lefty because that's what almost all of popular discourse would have you believe. I don't know exactly what she said or what came back at her but as she put it "I said something wrong and had a dozen people calling me a fascist, shit lib etc. Even reddit feels less crazy."

[-] Return_of_Chippy@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

That tracks, particularly for .ml communities. I don't think it has anything to do with women, as the OP is pointing to though.

[-] MyBrainHurts@piefed.ca 0 points 1 week ago

Oh absolutely, I didn't catch any women's stuff in OP's post.

I do realise though that even though I'm a guy I've sent 3 women to the fediverse and 0 guys. I think it's because the women with whom I'm friends share more memes etc whereas the only memes from my guy buddies are in our fantasy hockey chat, and the fediverse is pretty bad for sports.

[-] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago

She checked it out, didn’t understand a meme on WomensStuff, had me ask them about it, and was so put off by their responses that was the end of lemmy for her.

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