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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by RiotDoll@hexbear.net to c/mutual_aid@hexbear.net

Around midnight of the 10th my mother passed away in her bed.

We were close. This is a very painful loss.

I need to travel to a fascist state to handle her affairs and im broke.

Her health and what happened to her is WHY im a leftist. She lived the privileged life for a hot minute until her body fell apart. Supporting two kids and an underemployed husband to being on long term disability, my experience of the US healthcare system and bureaucracy radicalized me before i was 20.

I spent ten years before transition more or less caring for her full time.

Her battle for life since 2006 is etched into my soul and defines most of who i am as a person and I swear that's not hyperbole.

She's gone now and i need to get down there. My family is not wealthy at all, the feasibility of getting me there is low but i NEED TO. I have plenty of vultures in the extended family who probably want a piece of everything and i have worthless personal things that are at risk.

I hate that i need to walk into one of the most dangerous states for trans people but i need to say bye and do this, she was too important to me.

If you can help my venmo/PayPal is @ktkatte

I have cashapp in dms

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[-] Sneakytrickyyy@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago
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[-] Sphere@hexbear.net 1 points 1 month ago

How long do you have before you need to be there? I'm at the low ebb of my funds at the moment, but will be able to contribute soon if timing allows

[-] RiotDoll@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Sorry im... I basically alternate between checking communication with family, sleeping, and walking around listening to music and crying and I haven't checked on this.

Im about to close the thread because somebody came through with the requested amount (to them: thank you SO much)

I haven't worked that out with my sister and father

If you'd like to help anyway, and my God im broke and about to spend possibly a while where all of my resources aren't, I wouldn't say no, that's all an open question still so there is time

However i have what i need to get onto a plane once a date is set now, get back, and handle luggage and other incidentals, so dw. Thank you though.

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this post was submitted on 11 Jul 2026
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