I have a friend who took that road. He adopted a 13 year old from a bad situation. Said kid is now a college graduate. It seems like that is a rewarding path without as many moving parts.

As a father of two though I can tell you I have repeatedly said to my wife "I have no idea how single parents can do this.". They do it because they don't have a choice mostly, but you absolutely do. Make sure you've prepared yourself as much as possible and maybe try some extended solo kid time (2+ or better 3+ days) if you have friends with younger kids. It's not complicated, but it's not easy by any means.

An adult who can’t even imagine having to deal with another adult should not be having kids alone. Kids are 100x harder to deal with than adults.

Interesting perspective. May I ask your age? I'm going to be 48 this month and while I have similar relationship experience, to the point that I don't have any experience at all for the last 20 years- I feel like the last thing the world needs is someone as broken as me raising a child. I can't be trusted to do the dishes these days.

You don't want to deal with an adult who may be as obstinate as you, but you want kids?

I would have a think on that before having kids if I were you

If you can't deal with an adult partner, dealing with kids might not be so great for you either.

Adopt, volunteer in an orphanage, have a weekend visit, something like that. Just know it’ll be rough being a single parent.

If you can't handle a partner, you absolutely cannot handle being a parent: I assure you it is orders of magnitude more difficult and you can't just bail like you could in a relationship.

For women, its fairy easy, go to a sperm bank, pick your choice, get the procedure done and you are on your way.

That's a bit of an over simplification. There's 40 of pregnancy and birth. Also caring for a newborn is very difficult. You may be better off trying to adopt.

If you live in a state that allows single men to foster and adopt, that is one possibility.

And yes I'm sure paid surrogates can work with single guys. There are agencies for those.

Good luck to you.

Depends a lot on where you are, but I think odds and society is stacked against you here. In theory, adoption is a possibility, but I suspect you'd face a lot more scrutiny than a single woman would in this situation.

Some places have fostering with intent to adopt which is way cheaper than surrogacy, but more emotionally fraught (both depending on the kids situation/state of mind, and the risk/chance that they are reunited with their own family before adoption goes through).

If you want actual, specific, resources you probably need to specify where you live.

It's probably not easy or cheap, but my assumption is that any dude who wants to be a parent enough to do it solo have probably thought it through well, and it sounds like you've had some experience and will likely be an involved parent so I'm rooting for you.

Make sure you read to them every single night before bed (even when they're old enough to read themselves), and eat dinner together every day with no screens allowed, and give lots of hugs and kisses and 'I love you's even when they've been bad, and you'll do great.