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Same
if im not activley engaged in a conscious smile, this is me. just this morning someone asked me "you ok? you look frustrated".
got to look like character from video made with garrys mod to convince others you are having fun
I feel this. This one woman at work asks me what’s wrong practically every single day. I always tell her I’m doing well and she doesn’t believe me. I’m an autistic Principal Software Engineer. This is just how I am lol
Well, expressing emotions requires overwhelming visceral emotions, but those are kinda vague and weak/barely existing things. Those are just mostly background subconscious subroutines/thinking patterns, only noticable when observed over long time frames(years). Not something that actually has the power to cause facial expressions.
Though i have alexithymia too, so just a blind person guessing the colors of the rainbow.
Ironically enough, my alexthymia means that I often don't know when my face is expressing emotions. I might be grinning ear to ear and assume I have a poker face
Yeah that can happen as well. The body can express some emotion, but I'm completely oblivious of it.
I watched an Alice Cooper concert live, my stepbrother was with me. He apparently was unnerved by my 'sitting completely still with no facial expressions as I looked at the stage'
I was trying to imprint it in my memory! It was amazing!!
I was at a Childish Gambino concert with a bunch of friends a few years ago. A lot of them were asking if I was alright and if I was enjoying myself. I was, it was great! But I guess I looked like the above image.
It was at a gig for one of my absolute favourite bands playing their greatest album live where she’d got me the tickets for my birthday that my mrs finally understood that sometimes this is just how I appreciate things. I was rapt.
Schizophrenics too, interestingly enough.
I've done this. I sometimes enjoy being in populated areas and looking at nothing
I'm not autistic but I was often called out as a kid for not showing any emotions on my face until I got angry.
Later in life I discovered that in the old world, Lakota men were expected to have an emotionally blank expression. And it was often misunderstood by white people.
There was a group of young warriors that called themselves Ugly Faces and would try to make the hardest and scariest faces during hunting and battle. They were enjoying the highest of joy but trying not to show it.
My roommate thought I hated them when we met, (met ~1 year before moving in) still thinks I might hate them "because I look so soulless".
"Selling someone's else soul seemed unethical at the time"
Don't let the Finns see this
Or eastern europeans
The Hungarians I know are very open with smiling and laughing, so I'm not sure what to do with this ...
Sometimes having a good time looks like this: >:|
That's just me, except that I never had that great time,,,
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