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submitted 13 hours ago by Tharion@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

I don't know what question should I ask but How to actually live? There are so many distractions on my path, on the left side there is a phone with access to thousands of naked women, in front of me a computer with lots of games and movies, on the right side there is also a phone with a lot of content which is increases dopamine such as TIKTOK, INSTAGRAM, and on the back there is MOM which is telling me what should I do and what I shouldn’t doesn’t support any of my decisions…

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[-] HuudaHarkiten@piefed.social 6 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

Delete the apps from your phone.

No need to delete the accounts if you think those are something you want to keep. You can still use the browser versions of them. Those browser versions suck, that will make you want to use them less (hopefully, don't know how addicted you are). The more you get frustrated with using the things, the less you want to use them. Its like making cigarettes taste absolutely horrible and disgusting in order to not want to smoke them.

Or leave your phone somewhere that you cant reach. On top of your bookshelf, in your clothes closet, kitchen. Make it so that there is barriers, however small, to using them. You could go to extremes and lock it in a safe that only your mom has access to. Or you could install one of those apps that lock you out for a certain period of time.

Leave your phone home and go take a walk. Walk to the library, read some magazines, newspapers or books there. Get a mp3 player, put some music, podcasts or audiobooks in it and go for a walk.

Barriers are the thing. You don't have to lock yourself out of the devices, apps and services. Just make using them slightly inconvenient. Then raise the inconvenience levels bit by bit.

You are just stuck in a routine. Break the routine, break the addiction.

https://no-mita-nyt-taas.neocities.org/Ditch_apps

[-] seahag@lemmy.world 2 points 9 hours ago

I started reading. Now my phone is primarily for reading, writing, checking on notifications, and occasionally browsing Lemmy.

You could argue I just got addicted to reading instead, but I guess at least it's benefiting my imagination and lexicon. I'm also planning my own novel now, too.

[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 3 points 11 hours ago

Just curious, what's your ADHD situation?

Got it? Don't? Never thought about it before?

Is there anything you want to do or be, so badly, that would move you to act despite the distractions?

[-] Tharion@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago

I can't just STOP doing that because I'm already addicted to it, when I deleting all the distractions I'm returning to them after 1 month.

[-] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 7 points 11 hours ago

Cultivate other habits. When you're bored, do some exercise or whittle some wood or do a puzzle. If your replace your bad habits with something else, you'll find it easier. I deleted Facebook and other apps that have notification counters, and I use them through PWA. Now I check Facebook once a month or less and they spy on me less. Same with LinkedIn. Lemmy is also PWA but I'm on here much more because I chose to be.

But I've mostly replaced my ADHD scanning with work, not anything healthy or fun.

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