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well, you know what that means?
it means youre not separate from that group, youre a part of it. welcome aboard.
bar in hell moment
People often think there is an intrinsic link between their assigned titles and their character. A mother is always motherly by the etymology of the word, right? People rely on these labels to give themselves, by association with the labels, the positive traits that are attributed to them. No need to prove you're compationate, because you're a mother, so it goes without saying. It's some kind of cognitive shortcut.
So someone who doesn't have a mother, according to yours, does not get to experience motherly love. And someone that has a mother immediately does. Even if the mother is extremely abusive, there is this belief that under all of that abuse, there was still "motherly love". After all, your mother will always love you no matter what, because that's how mothers are. All of these qualities are attached to someone who gave birth to a child without it necessarily being true.
I do remember you posting about your mother before. I'm not sure if your question was retorical, but nevertheless you kinda know the answer already, right? And even then, it doesn't seem like arguing back is possible. I'm not sure why you'd be asking here either.
I’m not sure if your question was retorical, but nevertheless you kinda know the answer already, right? And even then, it doesn’t seem like arguing back is possible. I’m not sure why you’d be asking here either.
Just venting...
That's understandable. Stay safe
It is less confusing if you see it as a wave with a downward and upward motion but translated and somehow partially inverted so that what your mom was receiving in the past she is completing into stasis in the present.
Does not make it right, but surely this is in some small or large way a cycle of invalidation?
A deflection, is what it is
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