there’s a lot more to what it means to be perceived as gay in this society than just that person, personally hating gay people.
i had someone say that to me and i’m just extremely self conscious so i was just trying to figure out why….
was it my tone of voice? mannerisms?
all these penises in my mouth?
Is that why women are seldom romantically interested in me? Do they all think i’m gay? is that the key to my loneliness? (probably just the ugly part).
if you tell someone, “oh i figured you like country music” and they don’t, they’re going to wonder why.
and i don’t know if they stopped, but kids used to be pretty mean calling people gay… it can be kind of a “touching on childhood trauma” thing.

my advice: don’t “trick” people with clever “tests” and try to be genuine with your friends. If you’re gay and you have straight friends, those friends probably aren’t the problem even if they have a problem with being misidentified as gay.

Why is this okay because they are straight? Imagine saying you thought your Trans friend was a man, when they are trying to present as a woman.

These kind of tests are so toxic, and serve nothing but to spark an argument and hurt feelings.

You are part of the problem.

I don't think that would be my reaction as a straight man, but I could see why some people could be upset by others thinking that they were gay. It means you are not projecting the kind of appearance and energy you are trying to. It's like telling a trans man "oh when we first met I thought you were a woman." Maybe they can laugh that off but it probably stings still. It doesn't mean they think being a woman is inferior to being a man.

Exposing people's insecurities is not a test of allyship.

I feel like this is more of a test for confidence than for supportiveness.

I'd say "because I'm stylish and I work out?" (Context: I'm fat and wear jeans and graphic tees year round)

I mean guys are socially conditioned to feel inferior and less worthwhile as men for that kind of thing, I try not to hold it against folks as long as they're kind and choose to act in support

It takes some people a looong time to unlearn that internalized rubric. Sometimes it even takes gay guys a long time to unlearn it

Yeah being an "ally" isn't enough. People need to be subjected a purity tests too because that's been a super successful strategy so far!

Seriously, if someone isn't super comfortable with gay people but they overcome those feelings and support gay rights, just take the win.

My brothers friend came out to his group, and apparently one of them just went "gayyyyy" and they had a laugh and that was that.

Chat, is it healthy to guilt and purity test your striaght friends because they're straight?

A gay dude hit on me and I was super flattered. I told him that he looked good too without saying "No Homo"

I'd be interested to know why they thought that too. Not sure why that's a bad thing

"Yeah, lots of people do. My parents did, too."

I actually get this fairly frequently. I don't read as terribly cis, but I am.

If a gay friend told me that, I would have said “you have shit taste in men”

"A good LGBT ally knows that straight men are the only people it's okay to misgender."

I'm a straight guy. I don't wish I was gay, but being bi would be pretty cool. Twice the options.

My queer kids seem to think I am lesbian. The girlfriends "are you sure your mom isn't lesbian?" I literally have birthed 4 of kids , half of that set queer, and myself had only 2 long term relationships, both with men. I'm only into men, as far as I can tell. Am not offended in the least, as I get older I do wish it was so, women hold up better; and they obviously mean it as a compliment, it's just funny.

The gay guy deserved that beat down for pulling shit like that with their so called friends