Mildly Infuriating

Your dog has to endure Lyme disease and a terrible stomach ache, and he probably doesn’t understand why, nor why you’re mad at him.

Dogs drive me nuts because of this kind of stuff but he views you as safety and comfort right now

Sounds like you should be sleeping on the sofa with the dog. He might like his crate most of the time, but right now he wants his people.

Try giving them some unflavored canned pumpkin pie filling: My old neighbor swore by this to help his dogs when they had an upset stomach. Just make sure it's plain/unseasoned.

Hope your dog feels better soon!

What does the vet say?? There are no other antibiotics or painkillers available?

Jesus just go hold and comfort your damn dog. Go sleep on the floor with him. You should hope that if you are ever in a situation where you're in too much pain to sleep, literally screaming, and desperate for comfort from the one person your life depends on, that they don't treat you like such a burden.

Your dog is only a part of your life, but you are your dog's WHOLE life. You're enduring a lack of sleep, but your dog is suffering and does not understand why the person he loves so much won't help him feel better.

Instead you're locking him in a cage and trying to drown out his cries. Be better.

I feel for both of you. You're stuck in a tough place. There are different types of antibiotics if memory serves me well so it may be best to see if there is something else they can prescribe that might be less devastating or at the very least some probiotics that you can put him in that will help offset the gut issue. I am only speaking from what I've heard my wife talk about for herself. I was on antibiotics so much as a kid that my gut bacteria has never properly recovered. I have yet to find a probiotic that works for me. They all make me sick. Almost everything makes me gassy and in pain so I really feel for your pup. Not sure if they make a gasX product for pets but that may help too.

Firstly, you need to speak with your vet. Antibiotics kill bad and good bacteria in the gut and it’s very common to give them a suitable probiotic to help them during a course of antibiotics.

It also sounds like your pupper needs comfort. If you’re crate training them, I’d try having them in your bedroom overnight, raised up so they can see you, as that may help them settle a little more at night.

Personally, I’d be sleeping on the floor (as I don’t crate my pup) with a camping rollmat and comfort the pup. They’re stressed, anxious, and possibly in pain. If your presence and warmth can stop the howling, it’ll probably be better for both of you and you’ll get a better night’s sleep because of it.

Edit: fixed some word soup in the second paragraph

Fwiw, you're probably getting most of the shit because of where you posted. As stressful as the situation is, the term infuriated has connotations beyond the literal meaning. Since you not only posted in a place with that in the name, but used it as a description of your emotional state, those connotations came into play.

Fury or rage, even on a mild scale, isn't really the response that's socially acceptable towards a sick dog.

Now, you probably didn't mean you are actually mad at the dog. I assumed you were mad at the situation, not the dog. It seems that other responders assumed the anger was with the dog. And there is a difference between those things.

Maybe you are actually mad at the dog, I can't say for sure either way. If that's the case, it may help if you take some time to say out loud to yourself that it isn't the dog, it's the stress and lack of sleep that you're mad at. Seriously, it will likely help.

When my little corgi love was in her last week, she was having trouble sleeping. She'd wake up and get scared if she was "alone", which just meant in her bed right beside ours, rather than with one of us camping on the floor with her. So she'd cry and whine. None of us were sleeping well, obviously. And you do get mad when you're not able to sleep right. But taking the time to remind yourself that that's what you're mad at, not the dog, it lets you keep your emotions channelled in a better way.

But, hey, you're gonna get through it. Your pup is going to get through it. When you finally get to talk to the vet (I saw your comments saying you had already called), don't be afraid to ask for something to help the little guy stay calm through his distress. No bullshit, we do it for humans already, and medication to keep the dog calm and resting will help him as much as it helps you. And it doesn't even always take super strong stuff. some dogs respond well to antihistamines in that regard. There's plenty of options available.

Believe me in this, the stress is worth it. Hold onto the knowledge that he'll be back to normal in a few weeks. You'll both get there :)

My vet gives a probiotic any time she prescribes an antibiotic now, it’s called Fortiflora and it’s a packet you sprinkle over their food. Maybe ask about something like that?

My dog taking chemo also has a standing prescription for an anti-nausea drug. If it’s this constant for your dog, you should ask your vet about options for the next couple of week.

Give your dog probiotics.

I think you bit off more than you can chew. Your puppy is causing you a lot of stress and having to deal with a sick dog on top of that is just a lot for a single person. Dogs require a lot of time and attention and your current living situation just doesn't allow for that.

I would highly recommend you look for someone to take care of at least one of your dogs for a while. And you should even strongly consider giving up your 4 month old golden retriever while there is still enough time to properly train it. Rehoming it now is probably the best for it.