Only 30? I'm still waiting at 42...

I fucking wish I was 30

It never changes either. I'm past 40 and I'm still like "I'll get my life together next year. Or the one after that, surely!"

You are young and life is long and there is time to kill today

And then one day you find ten years have got behind you

No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun

Just working on diagnosis at 50. You're lucky if you worked it out by 30.

I didn't get diagnosed until my 50's. Now starting to get a grip on things.

Try 45 and but yes I agree.

I stopped caring about “getting my life together”. All it means to me is being a nice little cog in the soul crushing machine. I take care of the absolute minimum on a day by day basis and use what’s leftover to have fun and do what I want to. I figure by the time it catches up to me, the world will have really gone to shit. If somehow the state of things actually improve, either it’ll be a world that treats people with adhd better or I’ll go out on my own terms.

It is just so tiring sometimes

Joke's on you, I'm like that at 47.

If only psychiatrists didn't do literally everything in their power to make getting an appointment as hard as possible for people who have ADHD. Same goes for social anxiety.

46*

I'm exactly like that, and I find it so strange. Usually, the brain adepts to a new situation, and that isn't exactly new.

I plan everything as if I did not have ADD, and have done so even before I was diagnosed and had meds.

"...you're ~~30~~ 50"

Doesn't really get much better at 50 either

Is there any way to manage symptoms without medication? Both of my brothers have ADHD and my therapist suspects that I do, too. However, I have a history of abusing adderall and being addicted to it. I don't want to ever take a prescription stimulant again and no doctor would prescribe me one anyway because of my history.

I'm in this picture and I don't like it.

Getting my shit together < the sweet embrace of the status quo

This time for real though

25 for me and had just been fired for the second time. I was lucky enough to find coping mechanisms and a support structure that worked for me with people who had my best interests in mind otherwise I'd probably still be struggling.

That was over 20 years ago and now when I tell people I'm ADHD they don't believe me. Makes me feel good!

Ironically, I started actually building stuff when I hit 30.

You shut the fuck up. I do not appreciate being attacked like this

30 is as great a time to start as any

That is exactly how I described it to my therapist when I started really getting my mental shit together a few years ago… past 40.

There has been another recent meme that says something along the lines of “do you know they let you raw dog ADHD your whole life as long as you get good grades?” and that one hits even harder. I’ve described my childhood academic performance to a few of my medical professionals as “I was the kid who was threatened with getting kicked out of the gifted program because I didn’t do my homework.” And honestly I don’t think I remembered the assignments existed. I think that was the year I started using big fat daily planners.

And along those lines, while some of us are venting about difficulty getting treated: In past decades I’ve hauled my ass onto psychologist offices for an ADHD diagnosis and treatment. Well, I’ve always done well on cognitive tests. And you’d better believe that my Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria makes me hyper focus on those tests like a mother fucker. So being told you’re essentially too smart to have ADHD is frustrating as hell when you have failed university classes and gotten fired from grown-ass engineering jobs because of a crippling lack of executive function.

And I want to be clear none of this is supposed to be humble bragging. I’m just assuming that the audience on Lemmy is dense enough with similar computer nerds that others can probably relate when I describe it plainly. My brain is not one to envy — let’s just say it has lots of Simpson-esque “speed holes” thanks to other more significant medical shit, lol.

Edit to add: speaking of RSD, the first time I read about the strong link between ADHD and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, my entire god damned life made sense. Why yes, my life has also been defined by crippling social anxiety!

But the silver lining there is that I am able to make things a lot better for my son (8) who is exactly like me, and I can teach my wife about the brutally powerful emotions in situations that just don’t phase other people.

If I get diagnosed/medicated will things get better :c

I brought it up to my doctor and got a referral to get a diagnosis, finally. That was 4 years ago. I need to ask again for another referral but keep forgetting/not being able to, while im there. If I can bring myself to do it, I might just ask my doctor to help me make the appointment while im there. :P

Ouch 😵‍💫