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[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

I assume the line of thinking is: 1) white people numbers are decreasing, 2) people are not having children, 3) they use protection or not interested because they can watch porn, 4) ban porn means more teenagers getting pregnant??

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

That teen needs to drop the mom in an old-age home

[–] [email protected] 13 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

The plantiff is unnamed. This is a manufactured case to test getting the supreme court to pass a blanket ban on all porn.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 hours ago

Make sure it’s the horny old-age home, GMILF Manor

[–] [email protected] 76 points 13 hours ago (11 children)

I don’t understand how these kids get caught. They gotta be really slow or something.

I was caught 0 times as a teenager. My mom never found my porn.

My brother was caught a few times. My cousin was caught in the damn car on a family vacation with OTHER PEOPLE IN THE CAR just yanking his noodle under a blanket.

I was so cautious as a kid. I guess because I was caught and thoroughly shamed when I was about 4 years old. Maybe that’s why I never got caught when I was old enough for it to matter. That shame gave me a lifelong lesson.

I had a motion detecting toy dinosaur at the bottom of the stairs. When someone approached the stairs it would go, “raaaaaawr, raaaaaawr” and I’d be sitting at the foot of the bed reading a book by the time someone got upstairs.

If they suspected anything, didn’t matter. I was reading.

When I got high speed internet (as it was called in those days) I threw out the tapes and magazines. I had a separate hard drive I’d plug into my computer juuuuuust in case, and since I was always messing with and tearing into my computer, my mom never found anything. That drive had Linux, my mom was scared of Linux.

Now that I think about it, holy shit they fucked me up haha.

When they caught me as a little guy my mom said, “oh shamy, shamy.” And my dad said, “you keep messing with that thing and it’ll fall off and you’ll turn into a girl.” They spent the whole day giving me that, “oh you shameful creature” look.

Haha, man. Wow.

Yeah, maybe my people just messed me up.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (2 children)

Yeah, maybe my people just messed me up.

I'm pretty sure we're now in a situation where most of our society's contention is driven by childhood-induced shame over sexuality in some form or another.

And there's not shit we can do about it because every time someone tries to make a campaign to encourage better sex-education, or even scarier, sex positivity among children, those people or groups get attacked for being pedos and predators.

This is going to be a social dividing line that gets sharper as time goes. There will be people who have a shred of intellectual capacity and haven't been hollowed out be capitalism, who raise their kids to be free from shame and shackles of toxic social norms and let them just live and discover on their own what sexuality means to them.

And the orcs, who want literal dark-ages levels of shame, hate and fear and of course power-imbalances as deeply rooted foundations to anything and everything related to sex, and they will only want children associated with sex when it involves controlling them or worse.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

I don’t understand how these kids get caught. They gotta be really slow or something.

I was caught 0 times as a teenager. My mom never found my porn.

Modern operating systems are different than Windows 98. You think that you're sneeky and that nobody will find your porn folder and then your mom gets a "Popular files in your user group" mailing from "OneDrive Engagement" or a "Your browsing year wrap-up" by Microsoft Edge or a retargetting ad on the whole network because you looked at the Riley Reid fleshlight. Modern surveillance capitalism is really hard to escape.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 10 hours ago

A 30 year old friend of mine didn't know about incognito mode. A certain subreddit popped up, on his projector screen, as a recommendation when we were searching for a sports stream to watch. I don't think anyone else noticed or would really know what the sub was, but I later casually mentioned this really cool browser feature to use in case you need to search something weird.

I learned one shouldn't assume that everyone is familiar with all the digital tricks to hide what they'd prefer others not see.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

"you keep messing with that thing and it'll fall off and you'll turn into a girl"

On one hand, fucking horrible thing to say on a child

On the other.. probably would not have the effect they would intend on a certin chunk of the population lmao

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

"So anyway, that was the beginning of my transition journey and also how I became an absolute master of giving HJs."

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

how I became an absolute master of giving HJs

It's too bad that we can't have positive reinforcement for (beginning the introduction to) most sex acts. I like giving head because I love seeing my partner's eyes roll backwards. It seems like there's so much taboo that gets us excited and eager to try something, when we should all just be trialing to see what everyone likes.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 12 hours ago

You had enough motivation and technical knowledge, that's why. Most people don't even bother having separate storage with dual booting.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

That shame gave me a lifelong lesson.

A lot of people don't feel shame...

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (1 children)

I would wager that a lot more do.

My mother got drunk one night and sat me on her bed and described in detail when she got raped as a teenager, and the resulting abortion and the details of how that went. I was eleven.

Of course, being a male I can't go around talking about the lasting effects of many such incidents that happened to me, and I'm not really expected to even connect those things to any feelings about sexual shame. So instead what it does, and what it does to many men who had any kind of sexual trauma, is we just block out the incidents and internalize the feelings and associations inward and it just wrecks our self-esteem, our standards for ourselves and our perceptions of attractiveness in ourselves.

A lot of guys process this in different ways, and trauma like this can take many forms. But it's often expressed as later over-compensation and bravado and an image of being "in control" sexually and performative masculinity and hyper-objectifying notions of sexuality, or for more people I suspect, just an internal, festering self-esteem that doesn't want them to be happy or feel good about themselves. For every loud, angry incel, I suspect there are thousands of men who have the same background or traumas and they just sit quietly on it forever and it robs them of joy.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 hours ago (6 children)

That's some dangerous assumptions you're making here... Just because there's a vocal minority that seems to fit the painting you've pictured doesn't mean that it's valid. It could easily be argued the complete opposite that those who had shame about the incident would hold onto it, internalize it... and never talk about it again. It can easily go both ways here.

But my statement was more of an answer to the implicit question of "why did I get the lifelong lesson when the others around me clearly didn't?"... That answer could be because a lot of people just don't feel shame. Doesn't have to be "they gotta be really slow or something". They didn't get the lesson... they felt no shame.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Did you place the toy downstairs before wanking or was it always there?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 11 hours ago

It was always there. ;)

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I was caught 0 times as a teenager. My mom never found my porn.

oh she knew. we all know.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 hours ago

Knowing is one thing, being caught cock in hand is another. :p

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 hours ago

Kids need an outlet or they look for the real thing, not in a good way. Let them have their sites. Like anything in moderation though or only net porn will get you off later in life.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

teens aren’t aware or private browsing?

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