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I'll start. I watched every minute of Francis Ford Coppola's "Megalopolis".

Just finished... it made me think of this topic.

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[–] HobbitFoot 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

I watched every minute of Francis Ford Coppola's "Megalopolis" in a movie theater.

[–] HobbitFoot 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

I have flown from the Garden State to the Sunshine State in two different countries.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

New Jersey to Florida, and...

[–] HobbitFoot 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago

A little jealousy-provoking... But I'll allow it

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

physically mailed requests to opt out of binding arbitration agreements

[–] [email protected] 2 points 47 minutes ago* (last edited 46 minutes ago) (1 children)

Dope. Is that always an option somehow, or was it specified?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 42 minutes ago (1 children)

Was specified. Probably pretty rare these days, but this was ~11 years ago for a cruise with Holland America (and I hope to never go on a cruise ship again for the rest of my life)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 29 minutes ago

(and I hope to never go on a cruise ship again for the rest of my life)

Story time? Did you get Legionnaire's disease or something?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

damnit have I failed the challenge??

[–] [email protected] 3 points 48 minutes ago

Nah. It's a sidepool of cool, not the main current.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago

I’m the first of my kind to land on a payroll on my line of work in my country. I’m the reason my job recognized in the national job definitions papers.

I exemplified other companies that we’re worth permanent hiring, so I know at least 50 people got permanent jobs a few years after I did.

(We’re usually hired for gigs or projects)

[–] [email protected] 9 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Ate a whole bar of soap in high school. I was in a military school, and it was an initiation/bet in a certain extracurricular group.

At practice one day, they asked if anyone wanted to earn $300. All the hands shot up.Then they asked if anyone wanted to eat soap. All hands drop. Then, they asked if anyone wanted to eat a bar of soap for $300. Me and one other dude raised our hands again. After practice we went back to the dorm of one of the group leaders where they laid out the rules: entry fee is $25. One bar of soap, cut into six pieces. The four smaller pieces are too be eaten in one bite, chewed minimum of ten times, and swallowed. The two bigger pieces had to be bitten in half, chewed, and swallowed. If you got all the soap down, you had to keep it down for 15 minutes. If you get this far, you keep all the entry fees of everyone that's failed before you.

Guy before me taps out halfway through. I finish, and hold it down for the required 15 minutes, as the leaders get more and more agitated. After i win and they give me my money, I'm informed that I've just ruined the party they hold every year after the last major inspection is completed. Turns out, they've been running this scam for years as a way to grift money from younger members to fund their own shenanigans. I'm told that I'm not to return to practice the following day, as I'm not longer a member of the club.

Joined yearbook instead, and bought a lot of pizza for my friends that semester.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 hours ago

Irish Spring to be exact! And i gotta say that first bite of pepperoni pizza afterwards was... pleasant. That's when i learned about the lye content in soap.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Porn, volunteering for modeling for drawings at universitys nude and none nude, acting on stage, playing in a Philharmonic orchestra

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Quite a resume. You have many talents. A good-looking musician I'd say.

Would you recommend your path to others just setting out on their journey?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

Hahahahahaha no :D Especially not the porn part. Especially not why and how i slid down and that i am still fighting the addictions that i got threw porn acting

Also i have only recently turned 22 with that resume

But the musician, getting comfortable with your body (threw exposure not neccisary) defenetly reccomend checking it out atleast

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

I know about fighting addictions and getting clean, so all the best there friend. I'll pray for you (really) because that's a big thing you're doing.

Being comfortable with yourself is something most people don't have, so finding that at 22 is really great! You are special and worthy and deserve to be taken care of. Life is full of changes, ups and downs, and you've already had some downs, so expect some ups!

Protect yourself, and be careful out there.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

When one is at their lowest point, they are open for the biggest changes. Cant loose much if you dont have much to loose yk. Been there more than 5 times.

While it is always great to realise once own wrong doing in the past, it is important to forgive yourself. What happened happened, it can not be undone, so why keep occupied with it. Learn from it, do better in the future, and move on.

Scars from the past will never fade, yes, but dont spread the flame, be a wall, so no one has to wear the scars anymore, or atleast less people.

It is easy to learn to like yourself once you have realised and accepted that the world is just a stage and you choose which role you play and that only your opinion about yourself counts. People that are putting you down, drop them, no matter how it hurts. There is no shame in a humble life with few to no people in your life. You cant influence what happens to you, and therefore you shouldnt mind and care about that. Only concern yourself about things that you can influence and do right now! You can influence your response to outside actions. So the things in your life and about yourself that you dont like, change them, these you can change.

I dont need your prairs though, thank you.

If i could give one advice to any future or current parents it would be this: Always make sure your kid knows you love it and dont work against it. Dont be dismissive and let it think it isnt save with you. NEVER HIT OR YELL AT YOUR KID! Give it the attention it needs, otherwise it WILL get the attention from others, others that are anything but good willed, I speak from experience. Many many years of experience of exactly that and more.

And to all those that are going threw a terrible time, trust me, it will get better, dont turn to anger. There is a small slippery path from hate to self distrucction. Hate always leads to suffering.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

That was wisdom, hard-earned wisdom, the wisdom of the weathered rock. I loved this line:

Scars from the past will never fade, yes, but dont spread the flame, be a wall, so no one has to wear the scars anymore, or atleast less people.

I can't believe you're 22. Amazing.

You're right to handle things yourself, and you've worked your ass off, I'm sure, gone through so much alone. Jesus said, "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" I'm sure you've felt that feeling so many times.

I have no idea how you got healthy, how you got on your feet again. You have to be a very strong person. Your words are wise WAY beyond your years. You should be proud of yourself.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Hahaha i indeed did, a lot. It even was one of the many reasons i am no longer religiouse in any way. But unlike most religiouse people and the catholic church, i am living the values of their religion unlike them.

I myself have no idea how i am still alive, why i never with the knife on my wrists, standing on a cliff/bridge or having my head in a rope already and all it would have took was one small move, why i didnt do this small movement.

All i know is, i somehow am still here, with a clear goal: Doing all in my power so no one has to suffer like i do

But i am anything but healthy. Like i wrote, i am still fighting addictions that i got from the porn life, unlearning habits from the decades of abuse. I do not feel pride, but also no shame about it all. But it defenetly gives me confidence and reasurance. "I have been threw so much and gotten threw and out. I can withstand this too"

The porn industrie isnt inherently evil. It is a job like any other, but it has a very high risk of quickly becoming hell and torment, without you even noticing. You just have to get to the wrong people and before you know it you are trapped and they have you dancing to their melodie

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

You are so quotable!

All i know is, i somehow am still here, with a clear goal: Doing all in my power so no one has to suffer like i do

I do not feel pride, but also no shame about it all. But it defenetly gives me confidence and reasurance.

"I have been threw so much and gotten threw and out. I can withstand this too"

A heroes journey! May the road rise up to greet your feet! May your shoes not wear out and your bread not grow stale! May the sun shine on your steps and may you find fresh water when you are thirsty!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 hours ago

Thank you for your kind words :)

[–] [email protected] 8 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

Drank breast milk straight from the source as an adult. I highly recommend it if you get the opportunity though.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Is that not a thing people do?

Tastes like sugary water.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago

No idea but it sure isn't talked about, and any time I've mentioned it online people act like it's weird and get grossed out. Just look at the only other reply I got so far.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 hours ago

Please tell me it was cow milk? Nope that also doesn't help.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (1 children)

Was the first person in Australia to complete dual recognition (tertiary certificate through VCE )

We were the pilot. Of the small class, two dropped out, third failed. I passed with a cert iv in horticulture alongside my VCE.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago

Well done. That's a decent effort. I can't imagine being so motivated when I was that age.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 13 hours ago (3 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I knew a guy that would dissolve gels inside his eyelid.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 41 minutes ago (1 children)

Man, they really had some faith in the quality of that totally black-market product.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 minutes ago

Grant was special. I could write a novel just about him and his two younger brothers, and not make a single thing up.

One time, he proudly declared that we could drive over his head with a pickup truck, and all he needed was a throw pillow from the couch to avoid road burn.

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