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If a 24yo and a 18yo meet and become friends, and then start dating a few years later, is this also weird and creepy?

Asking for a friend.

26 and 19 seems fine, once you become an adult it's more about being in the same phase of life. 30+ year olds dating legal age teenagers is where it starts to get creepy though.

LiberalSocialist, you're a professional at making high engagement posts :07:

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I could believe a lot of such relationships aren't for the best, but I was dating 17 years my senior @ 18 and 31 years my senior @ 28. With that background, I'm fine with it personally.

As a person just a bit older than the higher age mentioned here, I have to say I don't have anything in common with teenagers and frankly, outside of my own family members I don't even hang out with people in their early 20s. We just have had totally different life experiences: kids, a decade or more being ground into the dirt by wage labor, having lived without parental supervision for a large percentage of my life, having dealt with bureaucracy outside of a school environment, having had to cook for myself for more than a year, the feeling of drifting apart from old friends, etc etc means that we couldn't easily relate to one another. They just haven't personally experienced shit that the majority of people have by their late 20s/30s.

I wouldn't have felt this way when I was 19, I'd have found it condescending, and I absolutely think anyone my age pursuing a teen romantically is preying on that naivety.

Half your age plus seven, a nineteen year old is an adult and they can make their own decisions. As long as the 26 year old isn't their boss or some other category with power over the 19 year old it's fine.

HOLY FUCK

350 COMMENTS?!

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As a former 19 y/o who was having sex with people that age and older- it entirely depends, but if you've done kink and consent education you probably have better boundary skills than most adult USians, and more experienced people showing you the ropes is nice.

But this is coming from a lesbian perspective and 19 y/o shouldn't be dating 26 y/o.

yeah i completely agree with this actually. at 26 your brain is done growing. at 19 you are still (developmentally speaking) dumb as fuck.

i think the real issue is when you start to tack on a few more years to the older partner but i do still think it's hella gross and weird to perv on people significantly younger than you are :shrug-outta-hecks:

it doesn't help that (at least in my experience) the older partner usually makes a habit of dating young, dicaprio-style

Yet, it's totally fine for 25-year-olds to date 20-year-olds.

Uhh in your title you’re talking about fucking but in the comments everyone is talking about dating.

There are issues with age gaps in dating/long term relationships. But if it’s just sex then it’s just sex. A 19 year old can consent to sex, and it doesn’t really matter if your partner is older because you’re not gonna have a long term relationship with them and you’re only gonna interact with them for one day.