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[โ€“] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (9 children)

My sister wanted me to be the Godfather to her children. She considered it a "gift."

I'm an atheist. I told her explicitly "Hey, you remember I'm an atheist, right?" Part of this whole Godfather business is making a promise to raise them religiously if their parent dies. I thought I was being considerate and kind by being honest that I did not want to be a Godfather because I could not in good conscience make such a promise.

Nope, I'm the bad guy, not the person who knew I was atheist and decided to not respect that at all anyway by asking me to be a Godfather to begin with.

[โ€“] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago

Even that aside, what kind of gift is "You'll have to take care of my kids if I die."?

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

You could just call yourself a Sparent.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 18 hours ago

Mug from Hotspot, probably. It's actually pretty great though.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

one of my buddies got a mtn dew. thats it

another got a playstation gift card, which would have been good but he didnt have a playstation

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[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

I've always been a computer/theatre nerd. When I was a teen my parents bought me a bike. I did not express nor have any interest in a bike, but I'm sure my mom felt I needed to go outside more and spend less time on the computer. A week or two later while upset at me about something else she complained that I haven't even used my new bike yet.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 21 hours ago (6 children)

That sounds a bit petty from you, at least from my POV.

No matter how nerdy you are, going outside is healtht, both physically and mentally. They got you a nice gift, IMO.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

They got me something I had no interest in and were upset I wasn't using it. Ever hear the phrase "it's the thought that counts"? It demonstrated zero thought into what I would actually be interested in.

It's like buying a teen a set of knitting needles and being surprised that they didn't start knitting with them.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Ever hear the saying "Don't look a gift horse into the mouth"?

It demonstrated plenty of thought.

[โ€“] [email protected] -1 points 13 hours ago

I know nothing about horses. I won't look this gift horse in the mouth because I don't know know what I'm looking at, but I'm also not going to be thrilled with the horse you've gifted me that I have no idea what to do with.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

My mother got me Rogaine for my birthday last year. Pretty rude and uncalled for I felt but now I've stopped cutting it and have the longest hair I've ever had so I guess she hit a nerve with that one

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Sounds really fucked up of me, but I once had a girlfriend gift me a painting she made for me. I could tell she really tried, took her time, spent money on it, and she chose a subject matter I really liked, but it was absolutely terrible. One of the worst paintings I've ever seen.

It put me in such a dilemma because she even framed it and was expecting me to hang it up at my place but I couldn't bear to hang it and see it 'decorating' my place. I thanked her a lot when she gave it to me but I would've preferred she had gotten me nothing instead.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 18 hours ago (1 children)
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[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago

XXL pajamas. I'm a medium bordering on small so I was swimming in them.

I think I also got a video game for a console I didn't have but the gesture was nice.

[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (3 children)

In middle school, there was this one super unpopular girl that gifted me acne medication for Christmas.... Unprompted. We weren't even friends and yes, I had acne problems like most teens did.

I never bullied anyone in my life before and since, but I did that year.... This was why she was so unpopular. The year after, she called 1 of the 2 only black kids the N word, got her ass kicked and either removed or expelled from school.

I have no idea why anyone would go around picking fights, especially with no friends to begin with. Before anyone asks, no, no mental health issues.

Edit: I also wasnt "popular" and had very little friends too. I mean, it wasnt right either way to turn bully either but I was young

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[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

My grandmother bought me a dark green, polyester, turtle-neck shirt; when I was 12. I never even tried it on.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

I think I only ever received one good present.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 22 hours ago) (1 children)

I think the "worst" thing I ever got was a VR headset. It wasn't a bad present per say and I really liked it at the time but unfortunately the VR space died pretty fast and it was completely useless soon after I got it.

Edit: it was a headset where you put your phone inside, I should have said that first

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Arkham Shadow just came out on VR and people are saying it rivals other games like HL: Alyx in terms of scope and quality.

I'm watching a playthrough right now and it's blowing my mind how awesome it looks to actually be Batman

[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 22 hours ago

That's great. The headset I was talking about was one where you put your phone inside. I should have said that first :(

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