Three year olds asking "why" vs the immortal science : parenting

[-] [email protected] 71 points 9 months ago

imagine getting owned by your kid's fundamental questions about the physical world and society, like damn should have read some books dummy

skill issue

[-] [email protected] 16 points 9 months ago

Wearily explaining, again, to a three year old that while the regimentation of time is an artifact of the development of the capitalist mode of production and the requirements of wage labor it's still naptime and they still have to lay down

[-] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago

Same people that complain that school doesn't teach anything useful.

[+] [email protected] 44 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

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[-] [email protected] 30 points 9 months ago

I'm not shy at home about my political beliefs, I just find it much more useful to work with my kid on building a strong relationship than to browbeat her with the difference between labor and socially productive labor if she's taking too long to get out of bed, say.

I burned out on organizing a long time ago too but the same principles that got any org I was involved with any wins seem to work pretty well at home too. Maybe I effortpost about it sometime.

[-] [email protected] 24 points 9 months ago

I would read that effort post very-smart

[-] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago

It might take a little bit but I'll try and make something coherent this week. If not something coherent then at least the nucleus of something useful.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

please do

[-] [email protected] 13 points 9 months ago

Guidance is political

[-] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago

everything is politics

[-] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago

There're different levels. Sure, maybe eating a potato chip is political, but it's not the same level of political as telling your child how to conduct themselves.

[-] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago

eating a potato chip is political

Light Yagami is that you?

[-] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago

The way families are constructed is political. That I have effectively absolute authority over my children, however I choose to use that power, is absolutely political. Marginalized people live under the threat of having their children stolen from them because they lack the social capital to avoid getting ensnared in the family regulation system. That children have such limited rights to begin with is political. The power relations that exist between a parent and a child, and the structural context those relations exist in, is very much political.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

The book Childism (Libgen link) broached the topic and is good reading.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

On my reading list, thank you for the recommendation!

[-] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

revisionism! gulag

[-] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

Bedtime struggle session when?

[-] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

Go to bed because you're tired and I know you don't feel tired but remember when you didn't realise you were hungry until you ate? it's like that and also there's not any fun stuff to do today anymore, I am also going to bed soon. The sooner you go to sleep the sooner it'll be tomorrow and the sooner we can go out to play and have fun. Also I love our bedtimes where I get to read you your night-time story and I've really been looking forward to it, so can we please go to bed so I can read you the goodnight story?

[-] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

Have you considered that I don't wanna?

[-] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

Yeah I know you don't feel like you're tired and I get it, but this is one of those times where I have to pull out the boring "adult card" and say that we usually go to bed around this time and that's because if we don't we'll be tired tomorrow. Then we'll just be really cranky and we'll end up fighting and I don't want to fight you, I'd rather have fun. Do you want to be cranky and fight?

[-] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

Alright I will "go" to "bed" but I'll make sure you're fully aware of my displeasure with the situation the whole time. (will actually get really into, then fall asleep during the bedtime story)

[-] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago

fell for the classic blunder inconceivable

[-] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

tails-trolled

[-] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

The rules-lawyering 4 year old in me has no genuine objections to this, guess it's bedtime!

[-] [email protected] 9 points 9 months ago

My mom gave me a bunch of communist medals she had gotten from her party and didn't want anymore so I got to use them on my clothes. I was blinged out with lenin and che on my backpack. Worked pretty well.

[+] [email protected] 34 points 9 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

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[-] [email protected] 20 points 9 months ago

Why!?

[-] [email protected] 20 points 9 months ago

Gravity and time select for stable patterns in the configuration of matter.

[-] [email protected] 13 points 9 months ago

Why?

[-] [email protected] 29 points 9 months ago

because unstable patterns break apart when met with random and wild phenomena. In a universe full of so much chaos, stable patterns are the only patterns that don't break apart.

why?

because their cohesion is stronger than the forces trying to break them apart

why?

these patterns build upon themselves and create a collection of energy that works together that is more than chaos can muster

why?

because chaotic energy isn't going to be cohesive and collect enough force to beat a stable pattern

why?

because if chaotic energy were so cohesive and structures, it would be a stable pattern and thus, not chaotic. Chaos, is by definition, an unstable pattern

why?

because it is an axiomatic definition of chaos

why?

because if we are to talk about this subject, we need definitions to work with

why?

because the amount of information being passed from me to you would be negligible unless we can use a common language

why?

because without common words, you wouldn't be able to understand anything I'm trying to say

why?

because information needs to be encoded before it can transfer from my brain to yours

why?

because only I am able to see into my internal consciousness

why?

because consciousness, as it is conventionally understood, is a solo venture

why?

because a star exploded and deposited heavy elements into a massive disk, which slowly formed into planets.

[-] [email protected] 9 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

this reads like something douglas adams would write. love it

sometimes I like to use "nobody knows, but some people have ideas"

[-] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago

This is really lovely thank you.

[-] [email protected] 14 points 9 months ago

That last, eternal "why?" that's where God goes. Now shut up, luv, i'm trying to watch the telly

[-] [email protected] 12 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

This but unironically. I have exhausted so many kindergarteners. They end up saying they don't want to know anyway and then I can hit them with trans-uno "Why?" trollface And if they don't like it then they shouldn't have asked someone with AuDHD a question relating to one of their special interests. Stupid toddlers.

except when it's about physics or space stuff I don't find that interesting so I don't know it

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