Anxious. Have Harvest Festival/Thanksgibbon plans with the family (not notably stressworthy) in a different state. Travel plans for work/pet are mostly settled, but the stress remains.
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I could need some feedback on an experience that I'm overthinking...
I was at a concert a week ago. I'm kinda tall so I stand to the side to not be too much on the way, but still dancing/jumping and having a good time. Generally I don't pass, but I was wearing fairly feminine clothes. At some point something kinda pulls a hair stand from behind? So I jump around and see a guy just sorta grinning awkwardly/maybe embarrassed at the floor. I don't really know what he's doing so I just stare him down for another moment and get back to the music.
So, uh, what did he want? It kinda reminds me of boys trying to get girls attention in kindergarten-kind of logic. Did I pass? Was it rude to use my height like that? So many useless questions!
Feeling really dysphoric about it for some reason too:/
To play devil's advocate, is it possible that your hair just got caught on something and the guy behind you had nothing to do with it? Mine's not even very long and it gets caught on my sweater all the time.
I'm pretty sure it didn't, because of the direction of the pull. I've had long hair for like 20 years so I'm used to what it can get stuck in and what that feels like.
One of the things I've been hoping for with HRT (apart from boobs and so on) is more emotional depth. I have a not entirely undeserved reputation as an emotional black hole. I was going to complain about not seeing any of that this week, until I realized that I've been crying over random things all weekend that would ordinarily have me annoyed and looking for a drink. It's weird how much better I feel after, kind of like a cheat code.
A trans woman I've been following on Youtube recently posted a rant about the trans community, and she seems to have internalized a lot of right-wing transphobic talking points. That saddens me, because I've only just started unpacking all of my internalized transphobia and misogyny (and I thought I was an ally!) and I realize it's been causing me a lot of self-loathing.
Oh, and dialing in my dose after switching to injections sucks. I mean, I can top up with gel if need be, but every time I see man stuff coming back feels like waking up from a really good dream and realizing it was just a fantasy all along. Androgen blockers are available, but kind of a last resort here. Guess I might want to seriously consider orchiectomy^*^?
I want a hug :(
^*^ Autocorrect suggested "hysterectomy" instead, which -- I mean -- thanks for the affirmation, I guess?
As an ally, I can't offer much in words of wisdom, but I am always happy to provide a hug over the internet. So, from one internet stranger to another, I hear you, and I'm here for you.
Also, I can confirm that crying can definitely feel like a cheat code sometimes. 😊
Thank you <3