This actually works, but only if you are willing to sponsor a green card.
this post was submitted on 14 Oct 2024
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It's really hard to meet people because all the people I want to know are hiding from humanity.
I don't want the type of person I'd meet at a bar and there really aren't many events for things I'm into around me. The people I'd like are more than likely like me, hoping I'd teleport into their living room just the same.
I'm also in a terrible place for my personality. It feels like I'm in materialistic asshat conservative HQ, so there's that too...
Bentonville, ~~AK~~ AR?
Edit' wrong state abbreviation. Sorry Alaska! Didn't mean to offend any of the dozens of you up there.
Long Island actually lol
NY is weird because people have the impression that it's all blue and chock full of "liberals" but a lot of long island is racist and conservative AF. A lot of "greater NY" is also conservative other than the larger cities. Long Island is also super expensive to live in so you tend to have more wealthy materialistic people here.
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Man I feel personally attacked
I mean, we are not 100% unfindable, we comment here on Lemmy! Normalize finding love through Lemmy (/jk).
People should normalize finding love through online communities.
Does having a cat count as being in a relationship? Because I feel like it should. I used to have a tuxedo cat who I actually got married to all the time. I couldn't help it, he was all dapper.
They better fuckin not!
Teleports behind you
Nothing personal, kid
About bloody time, I've been waiting for you, now hurry up and do this!
the great touring jam bands provided a wonderful environment to meet new people in back in the 90's. the parking lots of grateful dead and phish concerts were chock full of society's misfits, many of them well-read and witty (some of them not-so-much). It was not introverted at all - there were so many outgoing, lively, and fun people.
i think many of you are more outgoing than you give yourself credit for. you just live in a world where you don't want to mingle with the inhabitants, and i think that might even reflect a skewed view of the outside world. i'm pretty far left and i still have fun in bars in little ranch towns in the western states. most of those people are more fun than your average morose, urban-dwelling shoe gazer.
The main issue for a lot of people is a lack of good third places.
Combine less and less free time outside of work, with higher nationwide costs affecting access to third places that you would otherwise congregate with people in, (i.e. cafes, bars, clubs, etc) and you get people who, while probably somewhat outgoing, are unable to actually be outgoing, since there's not a good place to express that in.
teleports behind you Nothing personal, kid.... But would you like to be the love of my life?
teleports behind you
gives you the hug you desperately need
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My SO was appointed directly into my room by a mutual friend, so it's not far fetched.
Wingman of the year!
*woman
But yes, absolutely!
Womanman of the year!
I'm fucking waiting!!
(Yet still need a notice, written notice days ahead)
Sounds like an invasion of my privacy! I could be doing art at that moment, or some kind of lore deep dive. How rude to just teleport in like that!
I noticed you were reading through the Babylon 5/Star Trek crossover fan-wiki and I find that very attractive...
LMAO what is this from? It looks hilarious!
It's from the movie Animal House. :) One of my favorite scenes ever (because who hasn't been that kid? lol).
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Wait what else am I supposed to do, overcome trauma and go outside (>ᆺ<)
Go create new traumas, those old ones are stale.
Dont worry my traumas get reinforced with new failures all the time
Sounds like you're living just like the rest of us friend :) Always good remembering that the person who thinks of your awkward moments the most is yourself, and just not dwell on them too long
Have yourself a lovely day!
Worked for me! Roommate was throwing a party and my now-wife got dragged along to it by her friend
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Wonderfully cheesy 1970s movie "Logan's Run" had a deal like that. Instead of just swiping on an image, people teleported to your house. If you liked each other you'd step off the platform...
[The movie has a brief appearance by Farrah Fawcett, which gives it high 1970s nostalgia appeal]
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Introverts make friends by letting an extrovert adopt them.
Yea. My strat is to be friends with the extrovert and then identify the other introverts who're also friends with them and go be by ourselves together. I then return the favor by encouraging the introverts I'm now friends with to go to his outings.
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Quantum physics proves the chance of this happening isn't 0. Maybe if they wait long enough?
That post's gotta chill with the personal attacks, geez.
A buddy of mine got his first girlfriend in college after a family friend noticed that his single niece also liked manga and anime and introduced the two. I was very jealous of his attractive, nerdy girlfriend-turned-wife for several years until I finally got on a dating site and found love for myself.
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yes, because putting yourself out there just gets you yanked around by assholes -- ask me how I know.
Either Mr. Right will fall out of the great blue sky directly into my lap, or I'll die alone. But I frankly no longer have the will to really put effort towards that, anymore; and I can't fathom criticizing anyone else for deciding the same. Hell truly is other people.
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I thought my problem was not going outside, but I recently saw a post about how most people meet online now.
So it turns out I just suck. That’s helpful to know
Careful about where the posts come from-- Tinder et. al. have a vested interest in spreading the notion that the normal thing to do is to meet online, and so they publish surveys and press releases that reinforce that idea. Editorialists want a scoop about how the Digital Age is changing everything and the Youths Today are completely subverting existing norms.
Some people meet online, yeah, and good for them. But still, going outside and having interactions with real people is still the primary way to form relationships, and that's helpful in dating, career, hobbies, and wellbeing in general.
You don't just suck. Online dating is still hard, and everything is even harder when you don't have a solid foundation of other relationships in your life.
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how else would i meet commander will riker, if not a transporter accident?
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