This is exactly my life right now, and it's great.
this post was submitted on 24 Sep 2024
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Ideally yes. This is me and Mrs. Warp Core and I wouldn't change it for the world.
However...
Well, let me put it this way. Ever have a best friend that, after spending a lot of time around, you find out that you actually can't stand more than a few hours at time? That is absolutely a possibility here. Only now their stuff is in your house (or vice-versa), and/or they're on the same lease.
$0.02: It may not always be advisable, but absolutely benchmark the practical aspects of your romance long before tying the knot. Long-term co-habitation is not the only route here. Consider other ways to rack up large blocks of time: getaway vacations, long weekends, or even just "play house" for a few days at a time. You'd be amazed at what horrible, terrible, filthy, obnoxious habits your partner has when "at home." The reality is that everyone is a bit (more) of a mess in private, and the only real question you have to answer is: "what am I willing to put up with?"
I'm a full blown mess in private or public, they know what they're getting into before seeing me at home. I have no shame
It's really nice if you got the right person for it. I love my person so much 💓💓💓
This is exactly the relationship my wife and I share. We're each other's best friends, so it's easy to hang out every day. Which is important because we're both not working, so we're around each other 24/7.
So many couples struggled throughout the pandemic because they were actually forced to spend a lot of time together and realized they just didn't care for each others' company as much as they thought. But it had no effect on my relationship with my wife because we already spent almost every moment of our free time together.
And it's not like we do absolutely everything together. There are plenty of days when we're indulging in our own separate hobbies or interests. But we're always close by, so we can chat or share our geeky hobbies with one another.
If you marry someone for looks, status, money, etc., you may find yourself in more of a business relationship than a romantic one, which will struggle as you get older. But finding someone who completely gets you is refreshing. You don't need to put on a mask around them; you can be yourself and be confident that they love you for YOU. And if you truly respect them, you'll also love and appreciate them for being themselves too.
This is me and my husband. I find the part about going through the pandemic together especially true. “After” the pandemic I never went back to the office and the number of coworkers I had who seemed to be flabbergasted that I wanted to stay at home was through the roof. They seemed genuinely confused that husband and I weren't dying to get away from each other.
I have to admit though, it may have become somewhat of a hostile work environment as my husband has been threatening to tell my boss about all the times I make fish for lunch.
Far and away, the best aspect of my life.
My wife is the best thing to ever happen to me, plain and simple. My life would be a whole lot worse, and a whole lot more boring, without her in it.
Well, one more reason to be sad about being unlovable :/
Same.
I only really ever had two goals in life and I managed to fail them stupendously:
1)Not be the guy who's miserable every day and doesn't want to wake up to go to work.
2)To be in a loving relationship.
1 is making 2 even more difficult. On second thought it's like an ouroboros, 1 makes 2 more difficult which compounds the misery of 1 lol
Surprised this isn't the first comment. That's lot of us here.
Just love each other. Problem solved
Love is an action, and it takes two. If you haven’t found someone to love you, keep looking.
At the same time, it really, really sucks thinking you found this and then slowly realizing years into it that it’s not going to work because it’s just crushing your soul and there are some fundamental incompatibilities that are just not going to change and you have to get out for the sake of your own sanity and long term happiness, despite how much you want to make it work.
Source: I’m in the terminal phases of that process right now.
Apologies for being a Debbie downer. Just having some pretty rough times right now, and the next couple of weeks are going to absolutely suck, and there’s definitely no way around it but through.
Hey, I just did that a year ago this November 1st!
Man, am I glad I did. And man, was it so worth it.
Yo, I'm turning in the divorce papers in a few weeks. After months of detangling finances and finding new places 🎉 Only took like 5 years of me giving it my all and my former spouse constantly telling me I wasn't doing enough for them. The years before all that were pretty great though
At the same time, it really, really sucks thinking you found this and then slowly realizing years into it that it’s not going to work
Its not going to work with that particular person, but that doesn't mean your life is over nor that the one you're looking for still isn't out there looking for you. I'm really sorry to hear about the situation you're in right now, and its not going to be easy to get through this and its certainly not going to be quick, but you can get through this. You can heal. You are so much more than just that relationship even though it may not feel like that right now.
You must navigate these choppy waters with an aim to come out the other side whole in time. You owe it to yourself. If you want to try again in the future, should you want to try again, you owe it to the other person thats still out there looking for you.
Oh, I know that. I am actually very confident I’m going to feel way better in the long term. I’m just struggling a lot with guilt and stuff right now because a big part of me feels like a complete psychopath for basically spurning someone I love a lot, and who I know loves me a lot too.
That said, I do appreciate your well-wishes. <3
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you manage to navigate this uncomfortable (and temporary) period of your life and can get back to building happiness again.
I appreciate your sentiments. Your posts often give me spikes of amusement, for what that’s worth. <3
I'm glad! Hang in there, bud. <3
This entirely unironically. Life is better when you can share it with other people.
until you grow old
Really hope they mean "as you grow old".
We found Leonardo DiCaprio's secret Twitter.
Well, the odds of one partner passing first are a lot higher than both going at the same time :( but that's a problem for future we.
There's solutions for that.
Isn't this just phrasing it differently? "Until you're old" doesn't imply anything different than "as you grow old" to me.
Until means up to the point. The sentence implies a change at the point of being old.
Maybe if it was "until you die", but I read it as getting old being the change, not the relationship changing
As an old person with my same old spouse, I'm glad it didn't have to end as soon as we got here. We're going to continue growing older and older together, because as much as getting old sucks, it would be worse all alone.
It's damn nice, ngl. And I didn't get married until 2013 at almost 40.
It's one of those things worth waiting for, rather than jumping into at first opportunity. Not saying I wouldn't have preferred to have had what I have now sooner, but younger me wouldn't have been ready anyway. I'm just saying that it isn't something to rush for the sake of being married, it's about being good partners, matching well, and that's not something that's guaranteed to happen at any given age.
Know more than a few people who lived together for years before tying the knot primarily for the economic benefit (plus throwing a big party is fun). By the time you're really vibing with someone, marriage is almost an afterthought.
We decided to finally play Jumanji. She had to crawl across the living room and almost broke her knee. Now she is pouting with a cool pack while I boil water to make her tea.
Being single is cool and all. But I never want to go back. I decided this to be my life.
Maybe someday...