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Parenting Chat - 9/15 - 9/21 (hexbear.net)
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Folks, how's the fam? How are you? Sorry for the late thread, I have not been well 🤒.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (3 children)

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I've been flaking on this comm, so I'll take a ping as a reminder lol

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

You got it! youre-welcome

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Real talk how concerned would you be if you rolled up and your elementary school student's teacher was rocking a full yeehaw howdeedoodee cowboy outfit in a very irrelevant region of the US? I have been towing the line a bit but I just found a PERFECT old roper shirt at the thrift store and I get sad when I can't wear it. I'm autistic and get really fixated on certain clothes. At the same time I don't want to weird out my students' parents.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago

Dressing like a cowboy and/or a sailor is the thing right now.

Go for it, pardner. brace-cowboy

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago

I don't think it would bother me. Do it!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Last week of dad leave, returning to less flexible work arrangement than I left

Definitely not as punishment though, no sir

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

That sucks. Working in the public sector means I've never had to experience that. The lack of parental leave laws in the US is appaling.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago

We just covered British imperialism in NZ, Australia, South Africa, and Canada in our homeschool history class last week. I'm always impressed at how the kids engage with and respond to this stuff. We talked about self-determination, who got that right and who was denied it, dividing and conquering native populations, all that stuff that kids love.

Our oldest will probably need to go back to public school next year (in NC which is trying its damnedest to kill public schools), so I have to cram in the rest of modern history this year.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (2 children)

So what's the potty training strat? My kid's totally defiant, refuses to even entertain the idea of using the toilet. They've got their own special one with a pretend flusher and a special seat to sit on the big toilet. We're closing in on 3 years old here and I'm sick of changing poop

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

We got a potty watch and awarded with treats. A potty watch is basically just an alarm they wear on their wrist that goes off every hour or so to remind them to go try.

We are ramping up to start doing this with our second actually.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Need one of these for work lol

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

Lol, our oldest has ADHD and honestly, he probably still needs one. I just had to tell him to go to the bathroom because he was dancing around while trying to play video games.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

Going to try this for sure

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

We kept our little potty in the living room and that helped a lot. We switched to pull ups for a time. I also had a rolling 20min timer so I could check in with kiddo about going. We would put a movie on so they could sit and watch. We eventually moved to special thick underwear that could handle a little leak.

We would have her sit, and we'd pull up entertaining videos on tiktok, just anything to distract while she sat. The constant check ins helped too.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

Had our first "big kid" birthday party recently. Everything went pretty well, but wow is this kind of thing just exhausting to manage lol. Going to need to book myself a long weekend just to recover from this every year.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (5 children)

Last weekend I did a foolish thing and attempted to unstuck our riding lawn mower after a wheel came off the ramp into the shed and the mower couldn't back up.

I managed to move it using wood I had laying around like a lever, but in doing so I fucked up my shoulders and neck. On top of that I have been sick, low apatite and a cough. Yet on top of THAT, kid 2 gave us about 4 hours of sleep last night.

I'm dogging it. No fevers at all, so not sure what I have, but probably something from either daycare or work (students are back, with all their summer germs).

Here is hoping for better sleep tonight.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

May you find the one position that doesn't hurt while you're getting to sleep and also doesn't cause you to hurt when you wake up

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

Lol I've been sleeping with one of the squish-mallows the kids have and it is somehow better then the two pillows I usually have.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Sounds rough comrade, hope you recover soon and your kid catches up on sleep tonight!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Thanks! I've been doing stretches all week and I think most of my neck and shoulder pain has subsided. It doesn't help I sit for most of the day. I've been trying to do some light walking too. Seems to help.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Sounds like the right approach. My wife is a PTA if you want me to ask her for any exercises/stretches that might help, though I know it's harder for her without seeing the injury in person.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Its all good, appreciate it though!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Brutal, hope you're pulling through ok

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Neck pain and shoulder pain are basically gone. Hopefully that means my body can focus on dealing with this virus I have.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

I fudged my shoulder up too, but I think it was from looking at it wrong or something. Or I’m just getting older.

Hope a good night’s rest fixes yours!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

There is a stomach bug that seems to be going around where you get either a low grade fever or none at all but you are basically in and out of the bathroom doing the number 2 and vomiting for the next 48 hours. We all got it last weekend and had to just let it ride.

Hope you get well soon.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

Ironically enough, I had a 102.2 fever last night, and woke up with a 101.4 fever this morning... Took some Tylenol, and it knocked the fever right out, though. I was sweating like a pig when the fever broke, really gross. Turns out a co-worker is also sick too, we're both out today.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

6 and a half month old has parainfluenza and it’s gone to us (mum and dad). This sucks

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Our week went pretty well. Felt a lot like it was back to normal. Nothing drama to really report.

I had a "hiring event" style interview for the local hospital. I made a post about it. But I get there and wait in line for 45 mins to finally get to the actual interview and like 5 mins into it, they tell me the position was actually filled 3 days ago because the person that quit asked for their job back. So yeah big fucking waste of my time.

I am attempting to network to try and find clients and I'd really like this to just fucking take off so I can make websites for people and have an income because I think I'm basically done with the job thing for now on. Working is a fucking joke. But yeah I"m trying to get out of post-interview funk. I applied an IT position for a local gas station chain and I guess I'm on their blacklist for getting fired from there 10 years ago when I was working as a cashier and the firing was over a miscommunication. I was fired because coworkers didn't understand delegation of duties but the lady that was stealing cartons of cigarettes got a promotion. Such is life.

Moving on, me and the oldest have our first scouts meeting tonight. We missed last week's. They are already planning a camping trip so I need to plan for easy vegan snacks for that weekend since I don't wanna be that guy. I am already prepping for 2 whole days of masking(autism, not facemask) so that is going to be draining.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Glad to see another vegan parent on here too! Our whole family is.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I'm the only vegan out of the 4 of us but I also do most of the cooking, so they do end up partially eating vegan a lot. It's a bit fucked up when I make a spaghetti sauce and use TVP or Impossible grounds and then the cover it in cheese though.

It also sucks because my partner really isn't great at cooking(she'll even admit it) so sometimes like when we have burgers, I have to intervene and help her so at times it feels like a losing battle. She's supposedly anarchist and won't even vegan up. sadness

Funny enough, even at our scouts meeting that was last night, they were covering nutrition and was like "Meat is protein. Meat is protien." 1984 and I wanted to be like, "Plants also have protein. In fact peanuts, soy beans and lentils are the most dense protein foods when comparing price and calories, etc" but like I said, I'm trying to mask and be a normie.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

That sounds difficult tbh, I've always wondered how I'd manage in that situation. Sounds like you're handling it pretty well though if you'll even help your partner cook meat, that'd be hard for me at this point.

Ugh we've run into so many people like at your scouts meeting, especially from my in-laws at first. Luckily I shut that shit down right away. They make faces or talk about the food behind our backs but that's it. The area we live in isn't very vegan friendly either so that gets tough, we eat out once a month and we're kinda of bored of the same three options.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

It's sort of an "it is what it is" situation I guess. I did tell her when I came over to the vegan side that I was gonna probably cook less meat for her or at least be more hands off about it. Last time we did burgers, she did most of it but the serving so it's progress I guess? I'd rather her and the kids just join me in the no animal thing because it'd be easier for everyone and cheaper but I also don't belief in forcing beliefs on to others. I'd like them to come over of their own accord. I do sprinkle in a bit of vegan commentary here and there, so like my oldest does know that I choose not to support killing animals, for example.

We have a camping trip coming up for scouts and I'm not even gonna bother with trying to figure out how to eat what they are providing so day before I'm gonna grab a bunch of protein bars and trail mix lol. I've been on a vegan protein bar kick for some reason, partially because it's easier than trying to find fast food that is vegan.

We live in "Steak Country" Texas so it's pretty abysmal here too but we have 2 Indian places that can do vegan, a trustworthy Thai place that has a tofu dish that I crave, but also we have a hipster gastro type place and probably 40% of their menu is vegan. They even offer vegan specials. We have a food truck turned brick and mortar that does Tex-Mex fusion stuff and the owner has a vegan menu that is virtually the whole non-vegan menu with vegan substitutes. But what is amazing is that we have a full on vegan food truck here that is ran my a pair of sisters that work with Food Not Bombs and all sorts of leftist and mutual aid stuff. I'm pretty much convinced at this point that they are anarchists lol. Like if you are ever in my neck of the woods, I got the hook up on vegan cuisine, rofl.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Keep us posted on the scouts thing. I'm curious about it for my kid but not sure if the culture will be a good fit for us.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

Quick update from last night, but they did start the meeting with the pledge of allegiance and ended with prayer. Not super happy about pushing imperialism and religion on kids and an extracurricular org. But I think that is mostly my lefty brain judging. Normies gonna norm.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

I probably will since this is a big change for both of us. So probably mention the good, bad, and ugly.

My main focus is to first make sure my kid is having fun, then to try and blend in and be "one of the guys" instead of a chronically depressed disassociating autistic socialist lol.