askchapo

an ‘exotic’ white guy

The term "exotic" itself is incredibly , change my mind

As a cracker-white (hwhite with the hard "h"), I find almost all the discourse around race, from men (worse about it imo), women, and anyone else intersecting with sexual attraction to be a minefield or a goldmine (perspective difference) of the most insane shit you could ever read or hear.

Like I can't tell how serious people are, but I think they're being 100%, when they talk about, as an example, "blasians" or mixed race black/asian people. They'll start attributing all these characteristics to "blasians" as a whole, as if all this shit is just the truth and observable by all. You'd think people are discussing dog breeds and what the result of a pug and a golden retriever would be like.

It's just one of those odd things that maybe I, as a less social person admittedly, will just silently observe from people of all types of backgrounds and not know what to do with this information. Like I'm not telling a black coworker it's probably... something along the lines of racism... to be discussing how you wanna date an Asian woman and make hot blasian kids with her (lol). I don't think it's odd to want an attractive partner, obviously, or to want kids or want your kids to be also be beautiful, or attractive or whatever, I think that's all normal stuff people want. It's kinda fucking weird when it's so super specific though. Again, the dog breeding analogy comes to mind. If you're mapping out pedigrees to show you can statistically arrive at the most attractive mix of ethnicities and stuff... I know that's not what they likely intend, but it's what I pick up.

I get the feeling that with most of the stuff people aren't intentionally being weird or trying to fetishize people, but they're doing it anyway in the end.

I don't know where to go with this other than from my outside perspective (not being the target of fetishization by basically anyone- along racial/ethnic lines anyway) is race and sex dynamics have long been weird as fuck, especially in colonized places like the US that were built with heavily reinforced beliefs and laws based on skin color/ethnic group/race. Sort of seems like the unfortunate inevitable end when white-run societies spent like 600 years saying "oh, these natives are savages. These Africans are mindless brutes" you know, insert whatever else, that people internalize these beliefs, form other adjacent beliefs, but it all centers around this core ingrained idea that "biological race is a reality, there are actual biological differences between humans beyond just surface level skin color and other slight appearance differences, so people who are a different perceived race from me are exotic, different, odd." And that leads to sexual curiosity (on the less harmful side) or outright total fetishization and dehumanization (obviously on the very bad side)