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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

alt text: a tweet within a tweet. "coworker asked me my pronouns and I said 'they/them but I'm at work right now so it's whatever' and then she came up to me later and said 'this is you'" (showing a tweet that says) i'm probably nonbinary but i have a job so idrc about that rn

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[-] [email protected] 108 points 10 months ago

I'm the whitest, straightest, most moderate person you'll ever meet. Just stick to my resume, and don't look at my lemmy comments.

[-] [email protected] 82 points 10 months ago
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[-] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

That shirt is great

[-] [email protected] 43 points 10 months ago
[-] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago

No officer. I am straight white male, why do you ask? I have wife and kids even. I have had the sex at least one, perhaps two times.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

This flag? Why, it's my country of origin! I mean, I was born here, same as any god fearing american. But my ancestors were, uh, born there.

[-] [email protected] 81 points 10 months ago

Unfortunately work me will say whatever my coworker needs to hear to get quick, accurate replies, save anything prejudice or cruel. Did my agnostic ass happily discuss dyeing Easter eggs with an old white dude who Teamsed me "happy Easter if that's even acceptable anymore"? Praise your white American Jesus you know I did.

[-] [email protected] 44 points 10 months ago

Easter is not inherently a christian holiday goddammit. At least not in its popular celebration. Last I checked Jesus didn't pop eggs from his butt when he resurrected (that we know of) and the preachings of the Easter Bunny are unfortunately not canon in Catholicism.

To complain about "religious persecution" of profoundly pagan (if not outright heretical depending on who you ask) traditions is... certainly an interesting exercise in religious cognitive dissonance.

[-] [email protected] 42 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Jesus didn't pop eggs out of his butt, he popped them out of his cloaca like the silly little lizard boy he is.

[-] [email protected] 13 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

a powrful message we can all learn something from this holiday season

[-] [email protected] 12 points 10 months ago

Neither is Xmas. Both holidays were co-opted (or stolen) by early Christians to get "the pagans" to convert.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

Easter is not inherently a christian holiday goddammit. At least not in its popular celebration.

What makes you say that? Easter is now so entrenched with the death and resurrection of christ that it's origins as a spring festival are pretty well fully divorced from the modern meaning now. The church set the rules for determining Easter Sunday.

It's on Sunday every year, the day Christians go to church specifically to celebrate the resurrection.

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2024/03/30/why-easter-celebrated-eggs-bunny-rabbits/73108158007/

This article interview talked to a professor from Notre Dame that goes over a ton of this and the significance of eggs.

[-] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

The Catholic Church: Co-opts a pagan holiday and re-brands it

Two millennia of tradition: Mix pagan imagery with Christian imagery

Nonbelievers: Co-opt it back without the explicitly Christian imagery

You: Nooooooo it's religious!


The Church has had an iron fist over much of my continent for near two millenia, so of course you can find a religious tie for every holiday (except the First of May probably). However my family is almost completely non believing and we've always celebrated Christmas and Easter, with Coca-Cola Santa and no Mass. Why this laic co-optation is so controversial I will never understand.

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[-] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

Sure, but for my childhood it was about being with family, getting chocolate, finding eggs, and maybe getting a spring jacket.

And as an adult it's still just chocolate and a nice meal with family. So while it does mean Jesus to those who believe in that stuff it also means something else to a lot of us.

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[-] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

Lul based. Same here, whatever will get them to leave me alone the soonest so I can continue toiling.

[-] [email protected] 44 points 10 months ago

Honestly, at this point in my life, I'm so apathetic that I couldn't care less.

I grew up on the early internet, and I'm kind of part troll because of it. Since that's the case, and I'm surrounded by THE STRAIGHTS all day at work, I like to confuse and concern them by using non-gendered or non-binary terms as often as possible to refer to anyone in my personal life, especially my significant other (aka "partner" ;) )

I try to see how long I can go before I give anything away.

In reality, I'm a plain and "normal" cis dude, with a typical straight relationship.

While I'm trolling a bit with it, seeing if anyone cares enough to question it at all, I'm trying to do my part in normalizing the use of engendered terms with my colleagues, so that non-binary people will be more easily accepted, and those that are living in the rest of the rainbow, who don't want to be "out", have a normalized way to talk about their relationship without judgement, and without needing to "come out" to people.

I'm just one small part of this. I'm trying.

[-] [email protected] 15 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I do this too. I just default to they/them unless the gender is relevant to the story, which it rarely is.

I've found another benefit is that often it removes the gendered biases from the story. Like, if it's a bad customer who's a woman, but I call them they, people aren't immediately thinking of a Karen. Or if it's a man people aren't immediately thinking "oh well, boys will be boys".

[-] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

This is interesting and maybe reason to say "my partner" instead of "my girlfriend".

[-] [email protected] 9 points 10 months ago

Cishet guy here. I use the term "partner" all the time because I prefer nongendered relational terms. Plus, partner sounds a little more serious than saying "my girlfriend". We've been together 8 years but are not interested in marriage, so I feel like it's just the best word to use. It is amusing, though, when my partner isn't present and I'm talking to a stranger, that they often just assume I'm gay when I use it.

[-] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

100% agree, "girlfriend" or "boyfriend" just sounds childish imo, I prefer the word associations of "partner" too, like you're equals

[-] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

Yeah, I'm in a similar situation and "girlfriend" doesn't quite capture what we have at this point but "partner" also feels kinda vague and I'm not about to say "my romantic partner"

[-] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

I live in northern Canada and kinda have to do the opposite to keep my job. When I talk about my wife I call her my wife and I use gendered language mostly. These guys are old school and I once heard them talk about someone who applied to work there, but they went and saw on Facebook that a year ago he had long hair and had it died blue and looked like a girl. They didn't even give him an interview just because of that, and they spent a good minute laughing amongst eachother about how much of a pussy that guy must have been.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

That sounds like an internal problem at your company.

I'd say they should fix that, but we both know they won't.

You gotta do what you gotta do, to pay the bills.

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[-] [email protected] 42 points 10 months ago

literally me fr. Struggling with gender identity but too riddled with anxiety to want to have to put anything out there in a social environment, let alone work.

[-] [email protected] 18 points 10 months ago

Probably for the best to not share it at work unless it's something huge like going outwardly trans.

Personally the less my coworkers know about me the better.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

dont say shit like that on my posts dog, there is no better way to stuff yourself down. 😤

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[-] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

As a cishet person, I like to keep to myself as much as possible as well. That way, you can call people out on their homo-/transphobic behavior and make them really regret what they said.

[-] [email protected] 36 points 10 months ago

Too busy fighting off the dark thoughts inherent in capitalism, talk to me after my shift.

[-] [email protected] 28 points 10 months ago

This but also there's no good they/them in German. Gotta wait for the feature first.

[-] [email protected] 17 points 10 months ago

Just make shit up. Just do der/dem which will confuse the fuck out of people.

[-] [email protected] 17 points 10 months ago
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[-] [email protected] 20 points 10 months ago

Using das is like calling people it. So usually very insulting.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

People don't want to be a powerful entity that can shapeshift into anything it wants?

[-] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

They prefer to be a disembodied hand that comes out of a box.

[-] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago
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[-] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

There‘s a reasonable proposal for „en“, so you can just use that

The german language is not bound by the laws of some institute, you can just use whatever you like!*

* Not applicable in schools in saxony, bavaria, schleswig-holstein, and saxony-anhalt.

[-] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

Maybe ze? The way "they" sounds with a German accent?

[-] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

I've seen dey/dem which I find just doesn't sound natural. I generally say "die Person" for gender neutral speech.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

"ze" is more like "the", no? I've seen "dey" been used sometimes, but it's not common at all

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[-] [email protected] 24 points 10 months ago

My pronouns are "put me in whatever box you like, if you try to make me put myself in a box I'll throw acid in your face"

[-] [email protected] 24 points 10 months ago

That's just one pronoun smh

[-] [email protected] 12 points 10 months ago

Damn, neopronouns been going crazy lately huh?

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[-] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

*/use my name or "my client" for clarity if I'm part of the conversation (it's just disrespectful otherwise), otherwise figure out amongst yourselves

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[-] [email protected] 14 points 10 months ago

Being cute and girly seems like a lot of work. Also I'm surrounded by THE STRAIGHTS, so I'm sticking to the binary.. for now...

Good thing I'm comfortable being fat and hairy as a dude :p

[-] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago
[-] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

Why did you have to call me out like that?

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