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Not long ago if you left your house you were unreachable. In fact, the only way someone was reachable was if they were home or at work and had a phone there. Imagine that, just not knowing where and how people were at all times.
thinking of going back to that for myself, genuinely
yeah I'm definitely on this trajectory. switched to a linux phone that can't really use regular apps without a big hassle, and have thought many times about going flip phone, or occasionally no phone. I think if people would actually call me I'd be fine with no phone/only a landline. Also day to day I end up just using my laptop more for things like browsing here and watching youtube... and I can't/wouldnt ditch the laptop because of work and hobbies and such
Magnetic Ink smartphone
Keep the applications you want, in exchange for using the thing being slightly more of a pain in the ass so you use it less overall. And you can read it clearly in daylight, which is nice
Last I checked, nobody sells them domestically in the US, but you can import one easily. The Hisense ones take SIM cards, and the interface is really well setup. No google, though. You have to use web-downloaded APKs to scrape other APKs from the play store. Most apps don't need it to function, thankfully.
When I leave the house I just mute my phone and put it in my pocket - no vibration, no ringing. I think it works pretty well personally. Depending on your personality, it might also work for you, at least as an initial step.
The obsession with constant contact and the Internet of things has been a complete disaster, cmv
I'm glad he divorced his paranoid stalker of a wife. He just wanted to relax and have a beer after work at the brewery without telling his wife once, and she turned it into all this nonsense. Then she stalked his location constantly and made a big deal about him getting fast food without telling her once. Imagine being trapped in a marriage with such a controlling wife that you can't even go to McDonalds or have a beer after work without them freaking out. Nightmare scenario.
I think a deeper, core issue is being ignored. Why did he feel the need to lie to your partner about what he was doing? Why was he unable or unwilling to tell her that he's just having a beer? Is the issue that she would unfairly demand he not do this? Or is there some legitimate reason she might object? Either of these is indicative of a need to communicate about an issue.
In a healthy relationship, you should not only feel free to do what you want, you should also feel comfortable communicating these things with your partner. If you want to do something that would make your partner flip out, either there's something wrong with your desire or your partner's reaction and you need to talk about it.
Everything you said makes sense, but at the same time you can acknowledge that you need to communicate better without having the conversation right then and there. Both times the dude "transgressed" he was coming home from work. Probably tired, maybe had a bad day, I can see why he didn't want to negotiate beer or McDonalds with his wife right then and there.
Especially understandable is the beer. She admits that they had been having difficulties at home and maybe just needed some time alone to think. She knew where he was and texted him anyway.
Personally, I would've already had that conversation pretty much as soon as I saw the problem, before even getting to the point where you're stopping off at McDonald's or the bar. It's pretty unlikely that the first time it occurs to you that your partner would be mad is when you're opening the door to the McDonald's.
Communicate early, communicate often.
Foucault must be bussin in his grave.
This is everyone in the suburbs. My relatives send their kids to a summer camp where the main draw is a daily proof of life and frequent check ins and having an app to monitor the kids. Look, I'm all for safety (no really I am, more on this later), but it really seems to be more about the social media aspect of it, and removing any chance for kids to disconnect from parents socially even temporarily.
I never know how to feel about it when it comes to kids because although that sounds okay in some ways with best case scenario being little benefit and worst case scenario being your kid is dead or abused like wtf you can’t trust anyone with your kids really. Like a camp where they specifically don’t want/ let kids use their phones or computers or whatever? Sorry that sounds like camp rape to me idk
It's important to allow kids a space where they can escape existing in constant relation to their parents and under observation by them and just fuckin explore and experiment with socializing and identity. Summer camps are really good for this.
I know, but summer camps are not the only way to do that. Mostly kids just want to have their interests be supported by their parents without too much prying in my experience. Kids socialize on their own time and in their own ways. I never went to summer camp and neither did any of my friends really so we all just hung out. I do get the appeal of summer camps though and maybe my opinion would be different had I gone, but I feel like as a kid I’d rather be in the woods with my friends and a trusted chaperone than a bunch of strangers and as a parent I’d rather take my kids camping so I can keep an eye on them.
It probably is something that makes sense when you've experienced it. There's a certain quality about camp as a place that's detached from the rest of your life and temporary that allows one the freedom to be themselves - or maybe more importantly, someone else - because the consequences for fucking up are inherently limited. You don't have to worry about your parents or your social status back home, no one knows about the time you peed your pants in school. Plus a lot of camps do stuff that breeds camaraderie but are unusual for normal life. Singing at mealtimes, cabins having projects to be done over the whole period and shown off, and other ways for kids to feel like they're part of a group. And this gets reinforced by the aforementioned safe space to figure yourself out. Because the consequences for oversharing or whatever are limited to the time that you're there, kids often allow themselves to be more vulnerable and talk to their peers about embarrassing or difficult subjects. In general I just think that the particular nature of a camp as separate from everything else is what makes it so valuable for youths development.
my partner and i have done this for years. Not to this unhealthy degree of course but we share location. I started doing it because they would ask for eta as i was driving home from work. It was a bit of an unpredictable commute due to long running major construction and i didnt want to text and drive so i turned my location sharing on.
On the flip side I mainly use it to find them in crowds when they wander off to go look at stuff a vendor is selling or whatever. its not super accurate but gets me close enough.
I'm here just thinking how permanently having your GPS enabled to broadcast your location might obliterate your phone's battery
It doesn't necessarily do that.
Most phones have location tracking on all the time, it isn't really a big battery brain these days.
I guess some people hear the lyrics to Every Breath You Take by The Police and think, "How ❤️❤️❤️ romantic!"
I am more of a "don't eff/date/marry your stalker" kind of person.
really excited for the next step of loving surveillance technology, like apps that slave all the nearby microphones and let your "loved ones" record and playback every word from every conversation you have throughout the day and watch you on CCTV. so you can be safe from all the extremely high crime rates and terrorism.
and they can feel safe knowing that you will never leave them without them being 3 steps ahead of you.
I expect my future husband to send me hourly reports on the length and girth of his hog
My partner used to have us do that Life 360 location tracking stuff and I hated it. Just felt fucking wrong. I don't need to be watched and held accountable for every second of everything I do and I have zero desire to spy on my partner. This thing of wanting to know where everyone is at all times is so fucking weird to me.
Straight women need to be sent to conversion therapy to make them gay
Half of what makes a relationship work are the tiny lies we tell to one another.
Imagine not being able to tell someone you are totally already on the train, definitely didn't spend 3 hours curling your hair and then had to take a taxi you couldn't afford so you could show up looking impossibly good.



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