Eh. As an adult I get to fully choose which side I'm on. And going off of the facts I had at the time, id choose the side of not being with a cheating power abuser
But since more facts have been stated besides just i dont feel like it, its easier to pick a diffrent side.
This wasn't cheater vs homophobe at first
I made a rule for myself because of stuff like this
If you've done something fun but incredibly stupid and got away with it the first time, never do it a second time.
I'm only stopping now cause OP cleared the situation up more.
Otherwise, I'd say I feel sorry for your mother. To have a child that wouldn't have their back in that situation must be upsetting.
This person likes victim blaming
I see where you're coming from. And I'm sorry that happened to you. Truly.
But OP only stated they dont want to go because well, it didn't really effect them so why bother? So maybe I took this all wrong and I'm sorry if I did.
But for OP to be so dismissive of his mother's feeling because he wants to continue hanging out with his dad is choosing a side.
Like, OP isn't saying that mom says i have to move out but she's never really been there for me. Or she makes bad decisions. Or some other reason would have me way more supportive. Just, I like hanging with my dad cause we're best friends
But the dad is clearly not the best role model as he makes bad choices. He didn't sleep with some random women. He didn't sleep with one of his equal power co workers.
He slept with his young assistant. Which is not only shitty for the cheating reasons, but that's literally abuse of power. Then as soon as the mom left, before the divorce is final, he moved her into the home which once house OPs family as if its no big deal
And OP acts like its nothingl and the mom is actually the bad person for feeling hurt.
The question could have been how do I tell my mom I still would like to have a relationship with my father after all this went down. But no. This whole question was looking for validation to not actually have to go with his mom for selfish reasons.
Yup, but the dad here instead DID just moved on and brought the side chick into their old family home
Maybe not in a perfect world. But here there are clearly very opposing sides.
Even if the dad is cool about it and makes it seem like choosing to stay with him isn't picking a side, it still is
My recommendation is not to side with the guy who not only had an affair but invited Ms side peice to live in their old family home
No, I misread the final sentence. I still agree with everything I said, it was just slightly out of context so I withdrew it
But go off just being a dick
Nah, I messed up on that one. I'll say that one.
Whoops. Just another mistake
There's a bit of difference between making a mistake and stabbing your partner in the back. He could have done it the right way, but he chose to do one of the most emotional hurtful things you can do.
He betrayed family to get laid
I'm just trying to give the mothers perspective. I know nothing else about these people besides one is willing to throw away the love and trust of someone they're supposed to be closest with for their own selfish gain.
What caused that to happen I can't speak for.
Tomato, tomato