Only my family, friends and work. But I'm working on cutting them out of my life.

There was a big uproar amongst normies when the WhatsApp TOS changed......but people forget quickly and prefer convenience. That was our one chance to convert everyone over.

I'm forced to use WhatsApp chat so I keep it installed begrudgingly. But who the fuck is using WhatsApp stories?

Use the poor man's replacement plastic tub.

But the point isn't to see everything. The feeling of FOMO is what's seems to drive people to madness. For a game that's been developed for over a decade with multiple cycles of content release every year; I'm not surprised that people don't get a chance to see everything. I see that as a positive and not a negative.

Other games do similar things. I play a lot of Dead Cells and can't get beyond 4BC. Most people will never get to end game content to see all bosses or unlock all items. Who cares. As long as the game is fun.

My first play through of PoE was with no guides. I made it up as I went along. Had a terrible "build". I enjoyed taking weeks to get through the campaign slowly and reading all the lore. Every league I played, I got deeper and deeper into the content....learning to make tons of currency, getting a character to lvl 100, etc. It has been great playing it off and on. The game is fun without experiencing "everything". But if I ever engaged with the online community, all I would hear is "I've played 3000 hours and this game is shit".

If you're looking for a movie like this, then watch "Upgrade".

Path of Exile

Good fun game, but online communities are committing to min/max the fun out out of it. I like blowing up monsters, I don't care about optimising my chaos-per-hour rate.

Lego Death Star win condition

I changed to Ecosia when I last saw this chart. It's working really well and is my main search engine across all my devices now.

But now I'm considering moving to Mojeek if that's better for privacy.

Willy Wonka has no cards.

Searching/surfing YouTube is like searching/surfing Imgur. It's a site for content hosting so you can link from other places. You have to go to online communities to find links to good videos.

There are good channels that are worth subscribing to, but going to YouTube directly is like trudging though a swamp.

The child-free voices are strong on social media and this comment section seems pretty one sided.

I'll chime in to say I'm a man who wanted kids. I've got 2 now. One has additional needs and is a whole lot more work than even what people are trying to avoid with "normal" kids. The kids are super young and my job is super busy..... Despite how crazy all this is: I'm loving it. If I went back in time, I'd tell my younger self that I wouldn't change a thing and that awesome things await.

This is going to turn into a mini essay. I’ll preface it with saying the following truths are to be taken as presumed throughout: 1. You do you. You’re obviously allowed to make your own choices for your own reasons. 2. My reasoning and conclusions for myself do not apply to others. Just because I have chosen to take on a task, does not mean other are lazy for not doing it. My conclusions are personal and obviously I expect most to come to their own conclusions for their situation. 3. There is no objective truth and it is possible to take any path.

For me, I really don’t think life is about having lots of free time or to min/max responsibility vs pleasure. I see responsibility and difficulty to be inseparable from the joys of life. I don’t like hearing my parents talk about what I should do with my life, but I put work into maintaining a relationship with them because I want the joys and benefits of a good relationship with my parents. Equally, I want the joys and benefits of kids. The closest analogy I can think of is of getting a dog. No one online questions the joy thay looking after a dog brings, and it is easy to understand the huge responsibility being worthwhile. I find kids very worthwhile.

I accept that everyone doesn’t have resources and privilege, but (no matter who you are) there will never be a “good time” to have a child. Literal millionaires are complaining about not having enough. There is almost never a time in life when you feel you’ve got tons of extra time, money and sleep. There is no training to prepare for children. You can avoid time around a particular exam, job move or house move…..but other than that, any time you have a child you will be equally unprepared.

There are 2 types of joy in life. There are things that are pleasurable at the time (being slumped on the sofa and binge watching Netflix) and pleasures that come in hindsight and achievement (running a marathon, that sucks at the time but gives ongoing joy because of the achievement). I’d say kids fall firmly into the second category. I didn’t go to university because it was easy, I put up with the difficulty because I wanted to have a degree. "We go to the Moon not because it is easy, but because it is hard".

Objectively, it is remarkably difficult to have children now. Houses are difficult to afford and everything is expensive. Childcare is extortionate. Work is busy and unforgiving. There is no community to help with children anymore. Parenting is expected to be more intensive than it has ever been (when our parents were children, they used to leave the house for hours and play by themselves; now we’re deemed neglectful parents if we aren’t actively engaged with our children 24/7). The final point I would add is: no one else makes this decision for you….not Lemmy comments, not your parents or in-laws, certainly not a partner’s ex(?).