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if you call everyone dude and a transfem person gets mad about it, don't get defensive. just say like "sorry, i won't do it again" and don't argue "actually it's gender neutral" or "i call everyone dude". even if you do, i guarantee she's heard that argument from someone who very much does not call people they see as women dude. i certainly have

same goes double for the word guy.

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[-] Cromalin@hexbear.net 17 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

when it's a plural group of people i don't think it's as big a deal, but it would be good to find an alternative

[-] Des@hexbear.net 19 points 2 years ago

angry-hex we need an american version of "comrade"

[-] buckykat@hexbear.net 19 points 2 years ago
[-] Des@hexbear.net 17 points 2 years ago

local rednecks would murder me and local libs would probably think im calling them putin shills

kind of lose lose

[-] Crowtee_Robot@hexbear.net 17 points 2 years ago

After living in the South I stole "y'all" and I'm not giving it back. No more "dudes", "guys", or even "folks".

[-] queermunist@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago

Y'all is good culture 😌

[-] Cromalin@hexbear.net 15 points 2 years ago

just start calling people comrades at work. people would probably find it funny

[-] zed_proclaimer@hexbear.net 15 points 2 years ago

Got to play up a thick Russian accent when you say it too

[-] zed_proclaimer@hexbear.net 17 points 2 years ago

Funny enough a plural group of people being addressed as “guys” or “dudes” is the original source of this discourse, because early feminists were annoyed by being implicitly excluded in the language of people at work and school

[-] Cromalin@hexbear.net 11 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

doing it to a group is implicitly excluding women, but doing it to a specific women is explicitly misgendering. personally i wish neither would happen, but when it's the former it's something that happens to cis women too, and while it sucks it's not the worst thing in the world, whereas the latter feels really bad (to me, i understand if others feel differently)

[-] ashinadash@hexbear.net 12 points 2 years ago
[-] Ram_The_Manparts@hexbear.net 10 points 2 years ago
[-] acockworkorange@mander.xyz 5 points 2 years ago

Fuck, now you made me hate it.

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