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This is the first birthday where I'm really feeling how objectively worse my life has gotten in the past year. How do I deal with that? (hexbear.net)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Last year I was employed at a decent paying job with good benefits, doing work that mattered. Now I'm seven months unemployed, out of benefits and still getting ghosted by employers. Most everything else has remained the same (no friends, uncertainty with my gender and how I want to live my life, stuck living with my mom) except that I started seeing a therapist ~10 months ago who I really like.

It just feels really, really bad. I'm assuming other people have had this experience in their life already (I am both fairly young and a late bloomer in most respects), so I guess I'm asking how you dealt with it and how things got better, assuming they did :aware:

you can also commiserate with me if you like

thanks gamers

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Irrelevant because self-help books are garbage. "Self-improvement" is simple so all relevant advice is boring. Find a therapist if you can afford it. Cook for yourself more and eat healthy. Go to a gym, do a sport, or just go for long walks. Meet up with friends at least once per week. Get a hobby. Enjoy some form of media produced by your culture, like books, games, films, or shows. All of this subject to the constraint of time and money.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Agreed about the time and money constraints. All the stuff mentioned is easier if you have money. But, especially when you don't have money, this stuff isn't really "simple." Habit and behavior change is very difficult, especially if you have adhd or other mental health situation.

People sneer at Jordan Peterson and Co. (and rightfully so) but his popularity is indicative of people really wanting some kind of framework to organize themselves into improving their life in like, the next month. (And not 2 years from now when your union gets concessions from your boss, or legislation passes, or someone overthrows the government). Everyone knows what to do ("common sense") but not how to go about actually getting it done.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Certainly not a replacement for social change lol, but we all just want to make it to next week somehow.