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I mostly see them talking to women, with the message being to hyper-individualize and consider everyone else as nothing more than an object of exploitation (because that's how everyone sees you).
"Get the Top 10% Dude" messaging isn't even really about the subset of men in question. Its just about extracting stuff from the highest value targets. It is the deep commodification of relationships.
I feel your explanation is equally as valid and likely (if not more so) as mine, you’re just seeing things from a different perspective.
Except the highest value targets tend to be the top-10% of men, which is why women tend to be deeply offended if anyone from the lower-90% actually makes an approach - dealing with that interruption is a massive waste of her time and efforts, which can be better spent targeting those high-value men and extracting value from them.
Hence that “don’t sexualize me” messaging - it’s meant to dissuade the low-value truly-nice guys (the non-sociopaths) who actually value and obey the wishes of women. It ensures that they self-select themselves out of contention for her attentions without her having to expend any energy on them, specifically.
That has not been my experience. The single friends I know aren't looking for a Top 10% Man nearly so much as they are looking for a guy who will just act normal. Don't be a giant horndog. Don't get violent when you're upset. Don't flake on dates. Don't ask me to pay for everything.
Unfortunately, they're all on the dating websites, and those sites are flooded with fuckbois, creeps, and assholes. Folks who, very likely, consider themselves in the Top 10%, but can't maintain a relationship because they are so toxic.
It isn't meant to dissuade them because they're invisible to people who spend all their time looking for love on these social media sites. The struggle to find nice, chill, normal guys is real. What's more - and what really staggered me when we were hanging out - was how social media has degraded her ability to just... flirt with people in public. We were at a bar and there was a guy she saw who she thought was cute. And my wife goes over to tell him, "My friend thinks your cute can she buy you a drink?" and he says yes and comes over to chat, and she fucking flubs it! Just wiffs so hard! Complete emotion seize up. This woman is in her 30s and has hooked up online a thousand times, but as soon as she's not using her phone she just face-plants.
Its the fucking apps, man. They are obliterating the ability for people to form normal human relationships. These social media gurus are feeding on that negative energy, and people are falling for it because they've forgotten how to communicate with one another normally.
You really don't need to be in this mythical elite to get a girl. There are so many women who would love to have a bog-standard normal human dude. They aren't trying to dissuade these people. They have just lost the social skills necessary to make a healthy human connection. All they know how to do anymore is hit the "Fuck Me" button and hope someone else hits it back.