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What is Neurodivergence?

It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc

“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”

So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned

Rules

1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them

2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence

2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals

3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.

3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith

4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!

Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input

RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed

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first ever neurodiversity end-of-year discussion thread and hangout 2023 (hexbear.net)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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hey there hexbear nd gang! it's that time of year for the first time ever!

here we are once again approaching the end of the year according to the roman imperial calendar that we all have to use for some reason. it's the winter holiday season in the global north, a time of great symbolic significance to many people.

and so, i want to solicit your thoughts about this community, what it means to you, how you'd like to see it evolve, changes in moderation policy, suggestions for thumbnail and banner images, or anything else related to the comm or neurodiversity in general.

or just come hang out!

i also want to invite applications for new moderators for this comm. what would you like to do as a moderator for c/neurodiversity?

personally i've largely been a placeholder, but i do love this community and i want to see it grow as a shared and safe space for our neurodivergent comrades to talk about ourselves and with each other. i also want to do better and want your input about what that means.

c/nd has a well behaved user base so we don't need extra mod help for enforcement or anything like that. what i'm mainly looking for is fresh perspectives on community engagement and growth.

there is absolutely no requirement to disclose any personal information about yourself, just to make that clear. but if you're interested in moderating this community, please contact @[email protected], myself, and/or the other nd mods with an application.

if deadlines help motivate you, you have 3 days from the time you read this.

if deadlines harm your motivation, don't worry about it. if an application comes in a month or two from now of course we'll still consider it. this isn't a job, i'm just asking for volunteers to help moderate a small internet message board.

Application

What is your Hexbear username?

Do you have any preferred pronouns?

What are your thoughts on capitalism?

What are your thoughts on imperialism?

What are your thoughts on trans rights?

What are your thoughts on racial justice?

What are your thoughts on neurodiversity?

What do think about current and previous protests around the world?

What are your thoughts on Veganism and Animal Liberation?

Do you have any experience with other leftist online communities? What did those experiences teach you?

What is your approach to moderation, and how do you work with teams?

How do you deal with online drama and people who try to start things for the sake of it?

Do you have any ideas for c/neurodiveristy community engagement?

What is your general time availability? (amounts, common browsing times, etc)

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To get started, check out this link, where you can choose to either download Element for your platform or, if on a computer, open it in a browser ("Launch Element Web").

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Press "Create Account"
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[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

Hi, I'm not FourteenEyes but this comment is a day old and speaks to my soul and I hate it:

spoiler

You can find yourself putting in a ton of energy which can lead you to burning out and this alone can really disrupt efforts to have longer lasting connections with people if you're dropping off frequently or for long periods of time.

This is me

Putting in a disproportionate amount of effort into a relationship by masking and trying to fit can lead to [...]

This is me too

You can find that all of that effort you put in means that the other person connects with a very "curated" personality [...]

This one is me also

Thing is, A) obviously nobody wants to genuinely connect with the whole actual me because I am insanely weird or something, B) there have been cases where I have poured my entire guts out to someone and had what I thought were really good conversations, discussions of trauma, real bonding over hardships and discussing how to handle them type stuff, except that the above ends up happening again anyway. They just don't wanna talk about anything I'm interested in, and also frequently are incapable of sharing anything about themselves.

Also high maskers generally tend to have a high level of shame and social rejection,

This is me too wow, incredible! No attempt at speaking to a person has ever gone truly well for me save one, so how can I not have these things?

seek out a setting where your niche interest(s) are likely to attract other neurodivergent folks.

Where and also lmao. There often aren't spaces for my weird insufferable interests, so I'm usually left screaming into the void in places tangentially related to the stuff I like, always online. Also worth noting I just do not fuck around with neurotypicals anymore if I can help it, which sadly has not helped much.

I generally resist trying to fit in which just makes me feel like an aberration everywhere I go and it's so incredibly fucking frustating holy shit. By rights I am not all that weird, certainly there must be people like me but they also must not be anywhere near where I am or the spaces in which I speak.