neurodiverse
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
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If you legitimately believe it was unintentional, it was unintentional. That's what intention is. Even if there's some deeper bias or bigotry that informed what you said and how you said it, you still didn't intend for it to be offensive. I'm guessing your point is more about those deeper beliefs but is misattributing it to intention.
But anyway, a lot of the time (not that it happens often) I really can't see why something I said is offensive, even when trying to think about it afterward. A smaller portion of the time I see where they took offense, but believe they shouldn't have. Like people have been taking offense at "from the river to the sea", but they're just wrong.
As an autistic woman, I agree with both of these ideas: we can be wrong & we can still be good people who have good intentions. There’s so much room for offering compassion to ourselves and others in our shortcomings, because this is how we grow safely and securely. We can know that we did our best, and we see room for how we can be better. We are inherently good people, and at the same time, we’re also imperfect. Sometimes we hurt people on accident, & it should always be okay to apologize, genuinely mean it/feel remorse, wish we could change the past, and in that same breath, to also forgive ourselves by way of 1.) understanding what we could’ve done better, and 2.) doing our best to implement these changes. I really do like to believe that we as humans are always doing our best, and since this is how I as an individual operate, this is always how I will treat people, even in their faults and shortcomings. Even though I strive to be my best every day, I recognize that I have faults & shortcomings too; there’s room for both of these experiences to exist simultaneously. Usually the pain we cause others or that others cause us originates from a place of pain that we ourselves are either currently experiencing or have experienced before, so in observing/noticing shortcomings of this nature in others, there’s so much room to offer them grace; they’re most likely hurting, and we as humans need compassion and understanding most when we are in pain. Took me a long time to realize this 🫶🏼
I think people confabulate flattering post-hoc justifications for their behavior all the time, and lie to themselves about it. So I don't think it totally follows that if you believe it was unintentional then it was unintentional.