neurodiverse
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
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It gets easier to manage, but the RSD makes rejection feel like a knife through the heart every time for me. Failing makes me feel like I've been kicked in the stomach. This shit is incredibly nasty and it's prevented me from forming relationships to the point that I don't think I really know how to anymore.
I've been working on myself for years now, learning to manage my feelings and my expectations of other people. For a long time my way of "managing" it was just expecting rejection to happen eventually. That could also be my fear of abandonment, though (which I got from being abandoned so often). I still expect punishment and cruelty every time I'm addressed and I don't expect to be. I don't really try to talk to people very much. I'm still struggling and recently the loneliness has become more powerful than the fear of rejection, and pushed me to get out there and try to meet people despite the crippling emotional pain it causes me. I'm getting better at dealing with it, moving on, and allowing myself to try again.
Just wish I know how to discern whether or not I could trust people. It feels like rolling dice every time.
It’s such a catch 22. I feel so stuck and feel like I know exactly why this is, but I am still having so much trouble “breaking out”
I also feel like things became demonstrably worse when my apartment lease ended and I moved in with my parents. I am now living in the suburbs (albeit rent free) but it’s really making me rethink whether I’m in the position to the best human I can be