tl;dr: have a friend who has historically always been mad when his friends got a gf/wife. He acts like he's 15 years old and saying "bros before hoes" still. He calls me and other friends a yuppie or breeder, and he thinks crosswalks are authoritarian so he has to always be a "rebel" and make it seem like he has the most unique viewpoint in the world. He doesn't change anything about himself, and he's stubbornly proud of having "no filter." This has caused every wife/gf of his friends to not like him. He will never be invited to any kind of social event because he will say stupid shit. Like, nobody has to be a rabid commie all the fucking time. Him and my gf got into a huge fight because he always talks like an asshole, and i live with my gf, so he doesnt come to my house at all because he'll say some shit. He still brings up this fight when im around him, and it's like get the fuck over it. I basically don't share anything about my life that involves my partner now, because he'll say something fucking stupid about her. He also begins a lot of sentences with "well" or "actually" which is never helpful. He literally can't admin when he is wrong, even about the simplest shit.
This really all seemed to get worse once I started my current long term relationship, and then it got way worse when my gf got sick of his shitty attitude and how he treats everyone like an asshole. He literally just can't be chill at all. No leftist(or similar) should be ranting constantly about every single injustice during every single social situation. That is exhausting to be around, and there is a time and place for it, but there has to be an ability to switch that shit off.
Finding and keeping relationships requires changing yourself just a bit, and making compromises, and it's now become apparent he isn't capable of that.
related question: have you ever dumped a long time friend? This is all a somewhat recent change, like the past 3-4 years, and it really seems to be because im in a relationship like most of our friend group, so now he's totally alone. Ive heard him say he's in therapy but i have to wonder if that's true, because it clearly isn't working. I'm annoyed by him but I pity him too because he can't fucking change for anybody at all.
Immature and loud outbursts are definitely what is happening here. Like he just can't shut off his ranting, he will have to go on some long rant about some injustice and its like, we just wanna have a friendly dinner goddamn. But he also still fights with his parents all the time too, much like he did when he was 16. He has always had a "don't tell me what to dooooooo" thing going. Him still bringing up the fight he had with my gf is an issue too, he just can't let shit go or shut up about it, he always has to claim how "correct" he always is.
"I want
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"We have rants about injustice at home."
The rant about injustice at home:
for real, 90% of the issues seem to be how he's still mad at his parents for being parents.
I know you said that that person was not a
fan, but I think it's still relevant that Dr. Professor Lobster MD PhD Esquire raked in so much money from people that screamed "DON'T TELL ME WHAT TO DOOOOOO" to their moms when told to clean their rooms, but then heard it from a patriarchal grifter and gasped at the profound wisdom.