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Isn't the entire point of the profile and matching system to filter incompatible people out? Why can I match with 50 people and not a single one wants to get a coffee or something after exchanging a few pleasantries? Everybody hates these things and yet they refuse to do anything IRL to get off them. Is there some Manchurian candidate activation codeword that I'm missing? I feel like everyone treats this shit solely as an ego booster and actually gets pissed off that anyone tries to interact with them. How do you meet people in hellworld if you don't drink?

Me after dozens of dead-end back-and-forths that lead to nowhere despite having shared interests and presumably being attracted to each other since we matched: marx-joker

Hmm, maybe it's the extreme commodification of relationships and atomization under capitalism that prevents you from getting anywhere with this garbage thinkin-lenin

Nope, must be because @[email protected] didn't say my favorite "The Office" quote and send me a playlist with 50 of the greatest songs I've never heard that made me instantly fall in love with them. I have no idea what other people expect from these things but I'm not doing labor for someone that I don't even know is real. Thanks for reading my rant, any advice is appreciated.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Dont have long conversations with people on dating apps is my advice, get it to real life and x out the commodification machine asap

[–] [email protected] 15 points 11 months ago (1 children)

That's the problem: nobody seems interested in anything beyond pointless chatting about dumb shit or maybe they want to sext or something but that bores me to tears. It doesn't help that I'm ND and just want direct open communication.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Dont bother with the chat feature, say hi, something else and then suggest to meet up somewhere safe and neutral. Move on if theyre not showing interest

Chats fucking boring and theres really no reason to play the game, also youre not feeling bad on the toilet on your phone after they move onto the next shiny thing.