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Therapy has gotten too expensive, so those of you who finally found what you want in life: How did you arrive at that conclusion? (hexbear.net)

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Speaking in the context of satisfying your emotional needs/desires

Getting older and shit; realizing that I life in the suburbs sounds terrifying to me, but it’s what most of the people in my life are working towards

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

You just have to listen to your inner voice and not compromise on the direction. You will probably have setbacks and compromise on smaller things, but it is possible to get a version of that good life in your head.

For me, I always wanted to settle down with a good, salt of the earth woman and homestead. We wanted a lot more acreage than we could afford, so that was a compromise. We also had to move way outside of the city center we both grew up in, which was a welcome change, since it was getting crazy gentrified and we were getting priced out.

Don't feel like you "should be" further down the road at any given time. However, I was about 25 and didn't have a pot to piss in. I made a goal in my head. I wanted to be standing on my land by the time I was 30. We signed papers for our place just after my 31st birthday. Technically, when we were looking at the place, I was 30, so I'll allow it.

You know how they say "if you can afford rent, you can afford a mortgage"? It's true, it's just hard to get your foot in the door. The good news is, if you're paying rent, you know your financials are mostly where they need to be. Unfortunately, it's almost insurmountable unless you have a partner. I'm not saying shack up with someone or marry someone you're unsure of..

Since then, we have been leaning into homesteading and recycling everything. Making and prepping meals from scratch from basic, staple foods.

I know my path isn't for everyone, but the point is, get a goal, and assess what is in your power right now to get you there. There's no move too little that won't help you out later. Getting on a budget and a sleep schedule is a great step toward well being. Even if your budget is in the red, you will at least get a better grip on where your money is going. A good sleep schedule is so important to well being and your attitude toward getting things done.

Also, cut out as many negative forces in your life as you are comfortable with. Curb drinking and drug use and watch your productivity skyrocket. Cut out shitty people and watch how much less stress you have and how much more free time you have for enriching activities