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Speaking in the context of satisfying your emotional needs/desires

Getting older and shit; realizing that I life in the suburbs sounds terrifying to me, but it’s what most of the people in my life are working towards

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Healing is not my purpose.

Repeat that to yourself and it helps... because it's true.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

In that context, do you mean healing yourself or others? Both?

It's nice to hear either way though.

I've been working on my mental health a lot lately and I'm trying to heal from a lot of what happened to me. But there's the weird perfectionism that wants to see me fully healed before I can move on with my life. And maybe I just need to move on with my life. Healing 100% isn't going to happen to me right now, not that I would know what that would look like. And ultimately, that isn't my purpose and maybe it should be at a threshold, like 'healed enough' so I can do whatever my purpose is.

Alternatively, as a leftist, I think a lot about my privilege and my responsibility to make the world a better place. I guess, 'if I have the energy to heal others then I should try'. But that's also not necessarily my purpose. My purpose would be whatever it is I'd have if I thought other people were okay enough.

It's good food for thought

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

The "weird perfectionism" is real, for everyone nowadays, I feel.

But yeah, good food for thought.