Why do people keep telling me what they think I meant to say, instead of responding to what I actually said?

I didn’t assume anyone’s circumstance, I asked about a person’s circumstance.

The person I was speaking to didn’t reply saying “that’s not how my life works”, I got dogpiled by a bunch of random people who immediately responded with rage and insults.

I didn’t tell anybody to “get with the program” and the only thing I said about negativity was to note that I was becoming the target of hysterical rage, and being literally insulted, Mr “Boomer Energy.”

A lot of people seem to be bringing their own agenda to my comments, and responding to some horrible, hidden intent they I am trying to convey, and I don’t know why they are seeing something that is not there.

I’ve had my own struggle with isolation and loneliness, loss of family, trust issues stemming from abuse, with being queer and trans while growing up in a conservative community, and I care deeply about everyone dealing with being alone and unloved. And to have a serious question twisted by random throw-ins into accusations of heartless cruelty is frankly startling to piss me off.

If all someone can do is pick nits, call me names, and try to tell me what I’m “really” saying, or what I “really” mean, then I invite them fuck right off and find somebody who’s actually saying whatever nonsense it is that they’re so desperate to argue with.

How so?