neurodiverse
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
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I don't know :( It's like that for me too almost all of the time (there have been a couple of exceptions, that were really nice and helped me so much). I'm sorry that it's like that for you too. I've been told by some people that I seemed "intimidating" until they got to know me, so it's probably that for me. It's sad, cuz I am really not trying to be.
I think for some of us this is just the case and for different reasons. Some people will see others standoffish because they think are attractive and will assume them to be dismissive.
I think if you can acknowledge it as your "social role" to some degree, and just try to do your best with it. Try initiating until you become desensitized to it. Ain't going to lie, it's gonna suck for a long time and you have keep an effort up, but it is learnable.
Good advice. I've sort of been doing this, but I should just fully accept this as my role. I've been using dating apps a lot this year, and been always sending the first message and asking them out. And it's been going pretty well tbh. (I LOVE dating apps, for all of their real flaws, they're the only way I've ever dated).