I finally realized I'm non-binary
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Recently everything in my head all kind of clicked and I was finally able to say it out loud to myself. Turns out when you stop ignoring all the things your brain has been screaming at you it becomes clear pretty quick. I told my lovely supportive partner and it went really well (they're also non-binary and it was no surprise to them). There's no one else in my life I'm dying to tell, but I thought I'd say thanks to all the nice queer people in my phone for their inadvertent help and support