i've been stewarding a weekly march lately and the nice older asian lady who coordinates us introduced me to her friend and invited me for tea this week. she keeps referring to me as a lady and she/her'ing me and, despite me generally preferring "person" and "they/them", it's just nice - it feels genuine. it does make me question a little whether i might be closer to binary trans and still have some brainworms to work on.
sadly i declined tea bc the place she had in mind doesn't have plant milks and i struggle being out of the house for too long and was getting close to my limit. but hopefully next time :)