Women 30+, how do you deal with all these symptoms? I've been dealing with all of this ever since turning 30 (am 32) (thelemmy.club)

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I swear, when someone's talking to me now, I can barely understand what's happening. I know I'm no spring chicken anymore but I wish I was 16 again lol when I experience things it's like it's a memory or like I'm at the back of my head. It's hard to explain. Every thing here is getting gradually worse over the years. Suffice to say, I'm not looking forward to my 40's..

That being said I feel like I'm making a big deal out of something most women my age just get on with and put up with for the rest of their lives without complaining

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[-] lonefighter@sh.itjust.works 4 points 10 hours ago

My 20s were spent in a horrible relationship that was like a frog in boiling water. I didn't realize how terrible I was being treated until I got out of it and I'm still dealing with the fallout and the trauma, but I'm fucking free! And in the midst of all that I had undiagnosed endometriosis that the doctors kept dismissing and I also had undiagnosed ADHD.

In my 30s I got out of that relationship, got diagnosed with ADHD, and found a doctor who took my endo symptoms seriously and did surgery (all the best things in the world to her, she saved my sanity and my life).

My 30s are not easy, but my 20s were a cage and my 30s is doing what I want and feeling healthier doing it!

[-] Wren@lemmy.today 2 points 9 hours ago

Man, I feel the same way. I didn't self advocate and didn't have the self respect to find good partners through my 20's. Now I'm loud as fuck and healthier for it.

I'm glad you're doing better. Sometimes we gotta shovel shit before we reap the fruit.

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