Misogynistic trans guys keep showing up at our center? (hexbear.net)

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All of these guys tend to be younger, it seems to be a new trend cause we didn't have issues like this 10 years ago. They'll come in, talk only to other gay guys, and exclude women (incl trans women) from all conversations to the point it becomes very awkward. This has happened 3 times in the past 2 years or so. We had an event recently and we had a handful of trans people show up. I tried to talk to everyone to just say hi (I'm the organizer after all) and the guy just stared at me?? Then one of the sweetest trans ladies there talked to me about how she was trying to get contact details for people so we could, y'know, be a community, and the guy apparently told her that all of his chats and local groups for trans men were men only and that they had so many issues with trans women trying to make LGBT spaces all about them so they only let trans men in. She was just looking for people to hang out with! The lack of solidarity here was shocking to me.

Maybe it's some social media thing? Over compensation? Idfk. Shits getting weird.

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[-] Athena5898@hexbear.net 7 points 1 day ago

Have you ever heard of Stone Butch Blues? It might be a good but sad read for you.

But yeah. Its about not being part of gender conformity that fucks us a lot. We kind of have to deal with everyone else's baggage a lot. Either someone's toxic masculinity trying to put us in our place or someone trying to force us back in the box of what they think being a women means. Its exhausting honestly. Its honestly amazing that despite all the harping on theory you see a lot, so many people (especially queer people) have a hard time understanding intersectionality. When you are queer and dealing with other queer people we basically live in intersection junction with all the complex things going on. But everyone always wants to shove us back in boxes.

But anyway. Solitary fidel-salute

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