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[-] Racoonwithbenefits@lemmy.zip 38 points 2 days ago

Should have asked what she wanted to do instead

[-] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 34 points 2 days ago

“Whatever you want to do.”

“I have a headache.”

“I’m fine!”

[-] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 19 points 2 days ago

Yeah, that's totally how it works.

[-] DaGeek247@fedia.io 5 points 2 days ago

It is in a healthy relationship.

No. In a healthy relationship you understand when the other one needs their me time and support them with it. That includes video games.

[-] DaGeek247@fedia.io 3 points 1 day ago

That another way that healthy relationships can work, yes. But yours is not the only way.

[-] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 days ago

She wants you to know what she wants so she doesn't have to do the work figuring it out, because she wants to be a child again.

[-] Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 27 points 2 days ago

My wife hates that she "always has to pick the restaurant," when we go out. I cant make her realize she shot down my first 3 suggestions before asking what she wanted. Yes you pick because everything i suggest you dont want tonight and ill eat everything.

[-] BeUnique@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 day ago

I listened to the "I don't care just get whatever" response once. So, I did. It uh, didn't well as I knew it wouldn't. I wasn't being a dick about it either, just got what I know she'd want from a restaurant we frequent... She wasn't happy about it because I didn't read her mind and know that she didn't want that kind of food at that moment... Sometimes there's no winning.

[-] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works -2 points 2 days ago

She can't figure out what she wants and wants you to solve it, exactly. She has to pick because she wants to want the answers you give but she doesn't. What's it like for you to have to go through this repeatedly, does she know or care?

[-] Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 13 points 2 days ago

Ive gotten over itnas best i can. The worst is when i cook something, and she decides thats not what she wants, so she cooks something else for herself.

But she also gets upset that she does most of the cooking. Like yeah no shit. I dont need praise from you for everything i do, but less negative reinforcement would go a long way.

Therapy is helping though. I can hear it in the way she talks to our kids about life and how to treat others. So the realization is coming through

[-] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 days ago

Sounds like the world isn't meeting her needs and she's bitter she has to meet her own. Sounds rough man, I feel for ya. So many men deal with wives and girlfriends like this.

[-] architect 0 points 1 day ago

Yall live with a high level of privilege and entitlement.

If that’s all you have to complain about.

[-] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago

Relative to what? Why does men sharing difficulties mean those are the only ones? You sound like a wife trying to gaslight her husband about how good he actually has it while she abuses him...

[-] postcapitalism@lemmy.today 3 points 2 days ago

Rooting for you too

[-] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 2 days ago

More patient than me. I just got the divorce and now my ex and I are both happier.

Man I remember telling her one day when she came downstairs and I was feeding our newly diabetic son pancakes with syrup for breakfast and hearing "what are you doing? His blood sugar will go high?". I stopped told her we would give him more insulin and then gave up and told here it was why I asked for a divorce. At no point was there a good morning. It was right into what I was doing and how it was wrong. God forbid we parent different.

Long story short I've put a lot of work in with the kids and they have every other week with me and I am doing my best to correct the issues created from our 10 years of marriage. Is she aware? I don't think so. Even when she has the kids they still come to my house and I still have them for sleepovers. They don't do the same with her.

In a way I feel sad for her.

[-] architect 3 points 1 day ago

No shit they don’t do the same with her. You give them freedoms she doesn’t and she has to be the parent. Any kid will go to the less responsible parent for being more “fun”.

The example you gave, we will presume it’s the worst of your complaints, And it’s such a non complaint it seems ridiculous you’d use it as an example. You gave your diabetic child pure sugar and you’re blaming your ex for giving a shit about that?! You can’t be real. You can’t seriously think doing shit like that then expecting a constant smiling happy wife to come thank you for doing it! Go get yourself a trad wife who doesn’t work if you want to weirdly abuse your kids or grow the fuck up before you trick another woman into dealing with a man baby.

[-] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

Oh sweet Jesus a few things.

  1. A child is allowed to enjoy waffles and syrup once in a while.
  2. I have more rules in my house than she does in hers
  3. You're completely talking out of your ass making assumptions off of a single Lemmy comment.

Jesus Christ talk about taking a comment from 0 to 100. Do you feel better driving the car off the edge of reason?

[-] wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

Maybe they should have expanded on their 'nah' then

[-] grandel@lemmy.ml 0 points 2 days ago
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