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[+] Racoonwithbenefits@lemmy.zip 38 points 1 month ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (6 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source hideshow 12 child comments replies: [–] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 34 points 1 month ago (1 child) “Whatever you want to do.” “I have a headache.” “I’m fine!” permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] jnod4@lemmy.ca -21 points 1 month ago (3 children) Try having more money and those excuses vanish permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 1 month ago Just buy another wife? Wtf permalink fedilink source parent [–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 1 month ago (1 child) So you're saying that ... a woman's partner having more money ... makes them... decisive? Like, inherently? ... or because women only want to do things that cost a significant amount of money, and give noncommital answers when such money is not present? I am genuienly trying to follow the logic here. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jnod4@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 month ago* (1 child) I respect that you're the only person to actually dig deeper into my remark. I think it's both and neither of those at the same time. Love and appreciation cannot coexist with squalor, misery and poverty that is present in today's common marital home. A wife (or husband) would be more receptive if we all didn't had to work vast amounts of overtime to live in our tiny houses. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) I broadly agree with that, but phrasing it as you originally did... leaves open the potential of many interpretations, and is thus... well in this context, inherently inflammatory. Such as the interpretation of basically 'all women want only money or expensive things/experiences'. I would say that love can exist amidst squalor, but certainly the poverty makes it much, much more rare and difficult achieve or maintain. I'm not going to tell you gold diggers do not exist, or that many women are not broadly financially illiterate, irresponsible, or that many women are not vain. But many of them are none of those things, many men are. Qualified statements are probably a better plan with uh, high conflict topics. permalink fedilink source parent [–] derek@infosec.pub 10 points 1 month ago (1 child) It has nothing to do with money. This is something people will struggle with sans agriculture and in a perfect gift economy utopia. Only boring people are bored (and depression is not boredom). permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] nature_man@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 month ago (2 children) depression can very much make you become bored by things you used to like, its called anhedonia and it doesnt always go away even after some pretty intensive treatments, or even if the depression itself is managed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] derek@infosec.pub 4 points 1 month ago I've separated them purposefully because I think there's an important semantic distinction. The boredom you describe is driven by disinterest due to neurochemical dysfunction. That's distinct from boredom as a state of mind which assumes or asserts that curiosity, entertainment, etc, are presented and consumed. There is not necessarily a chemical imbalance imposing this state on the mind. If you like, you could reword the sentiment as; only boring people are bored (and those with depression are not necessarily boring). I've considered that phrasing previously but found it diminishes the concept. permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 month ago The lack of want is horrible to live with. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 19 points 1 month ago (1 child) Yeah, that's totally how it works. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] DaGeek247@fedia.io 5 points 1 month ago (1 child) It is in a healthy relationship. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] rants_unnecessarily@piefed.social 7 points 1 month ago (1 child) No. In a healthy relationship you understand when the other one needs their me time and support them with it. That includes video games. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] DaGeek247@fedia.io 3 points 1 month ago That another way that healthy relationships can work, yes. But yours is not the only way. permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 month ago (1 child) She wants you to know what she wants so she doesn't have to do the work figuring it out, because she wants to be a child again. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 27 points 1 month ago (2 children) My wife hates that she "always has to pick the restaurant," when we go out. I cant make her realize she shot down my first 3 suggestions before asking what she wanted. Yes you pick because everything i suggest you dont want tonight and ill eat everything. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] BeUnique@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 month ago I listened to the "I don't care just get whatever" response once. So, I did. It uh, didn't well as I knew it wouldn't. I wasn't being a dick about it either, just got what I know she'd want from a restaurant we frequent... She wasn't happy about it because I didn't read her mind and know that she didn't want that kind of food at that moment... Sometimes there's no winning. permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works -2 points 1 month ago (1 child) She can't figure out what she wants and wants you to solve it, exactly. She has to pick because she wants to want the answers you give but she doesn't. What's it like for you to have to go through this repeatedly, does she know or care? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 13 points 1 month ago (3 children) Ive gotten over itnas best i can. The worst is when i cook something, and she decides thats not what she wants, so she cooks something else for herself. But she also gets upset that she does most of the cooking. Like yeah no shit. I dont need praise from you for everything i do, but less negative reinforcement would go a long way. Therapy is helping though. I can hear it in the way she talks to our kids about life and how to treat others. So the realization is coming through permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] postcapitalism@lemmy.today 3 points 1 month ago Rooting for you too permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago (1 child) Sounds like the world isn't meeting her needs and she's bitter she has to meet her own. Sounds rough man, I feel for ya. So many men deal with wives and girlfriends like this. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] architect 0 points 1 month ago (1 child) Yall live with a high level of privilege and entitlement. If that’s all you have to complain about. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago Relative to what? Why does men sharing difficulties mean those are the only ones? You sound like a wife trying to gaslight her husband about how good he actually has it while she abuses him... permalink fedilink source parent [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca -2 points 1 month ago (2 children) More patient than me. I just got the divorce and now my ex and I are both happier. Man I remember telling her one day when she came downstairs and I was feeding our newly diabetic son pancakes with syrup for breakfast and hearing "what are you doing? His blood sugar will go high?". I stopped told her we would give him more insulin and then gave up and told here it was why I asked for a divorce. At no point was there a good morning. It was right into what I was doing and how it was wrong. God forbid we parent different. Long story short I've put a lot of work in with the kids and they have every other week with me and I am doing my best to correct the issues created from our 10 years of marriage. Is she aware? I don't think so. Even when she has the kids they still come to my house and I still have them for sleepovers. They don't do the same with her. In a way I feel sad for her. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] architect 4 points 1 month ago (1 child) No shit they don’t do the same with her. You give them freedoms she doesn’t and she has to be the parent. Any kid will go to the less responsible parent for being more “fun”. The example you gave, we will presume it’s the worst of your complaints, And it’s such a non complaint it seems ridiculous you’d use it as an example. You gave your diabetic child pure sugar and you’re blaming your ex for giving a shit about that?! You can’t be real. You can’t seriously think doing shit like that then expecting a constant smiling happy wife to come thank you for doing it! Go get yourself a trad wife who doesn’t work if you want to weirdly abuse your kids or grow the fuck up before you trick another woman into dealing with a man baby. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago Oh sweet Jesus a few things. A child is allowed to enjoy waffles and syrup once in a while. I have more rules in my house than she does in hers You're completely talking out of your ass making assumptions off of a single Lemmy comment. Jesus Christ talk about taking a comment from 0 to 100. Do you feel better driving the car off the edge of reason? permalink fedilink source parent [–] Tenthrow@lemmy.world 1 point 1 month ago (1 child) You'll just give him more insulin? There's a lesson that could shave decades of his lifespan. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago* Um you realize a T1D can't produce insulin right? permalink fedilink source parent [–] wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago Maybe they should have expanded on their 'nah' then permalink fedilink source parent [–] grandel@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 month ago Sleep permalink fedilink source parent [+] comador@lemmy.world -6 points 1 month ago Happy wife, happy life. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 34 points 1 month ago (1 child) “Whatever you want to do.” “I have a headache.” “I’m fine!” permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [+] jnod4@lemmy.ca -21 points 1 month ago (3 children) Try having more money and those excuses vanish permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 1 month ago Just buy another wife? Wtf permalink fedilink source parent [–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 1 month ago (1 child) So you're saying that ... a woman's partner having more money ... makes them... decisive? Like, inherently? ... or because women only want to do things that cost a significant amount of money, and give noncommital answers when such money is not present? I am genuienly trying to follow the logic here. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jnod4@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 month ago* (1 child) I respect that you're the only person to actually dig deeper into my remark. I think it's both and neither of those at the same time. Love and appreciation cannot coexist with squalor, misery and poverty that is present in today's common marital home. A wife (or husband) would be more receptive if we all didn't had to work vast amounts of overtime to live in our tiny houses. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) I broadly agree with that, but phrasing it as you originally did... leaves open the potential of many interpretations, and is thus... well in this context, inherently inflammatory. Such as the interpretation of basically 'all women want only money or expensive things/experiences'. I would say that love can exist amidst squalor, but certainly the poverty makes it much, much more rare and difficult achieve or maintain. I'm not going to tell you gold diggers do not exist, or that many women are not broadly financially illiterate, irresponsible, or that many women are not vain. But many of them are none of those things, many men are. Qualified statements are probably a better plan with uh, high conflict topics. permalink fedilink source parent [–] derek@infosec.pub 10 points 1 month ago (1 child) It has nothing to do with money. This is something people will struggle with sans agriculture and in a perfect gift economy utopia. Only boring people are bored (and depression is not boredom). permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] nature_man@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 month ago (2 children) depression can very much make you become bored by things you used to like, its called anhedonia and it doesnt always go away even after some pretty intensive treatments, or even if the depression itself is managed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] derek@infosec.pub 4 points 1 month ago I've separated them purposefully because I think there's an important semantic distinction. The boredom you describe is driven by disinterest due to neurochemical dysfunction. That's distinct from boredom as a state of mind which assumes or asserts that curiosity, entertainment, etc, are presented and consumed. There is not necessarily a chemical imbalance imposing this state on the mind. If you like, you could reword the sentiment as; only boring people are bored (and those with depression are not necessarily boring). I've considered that phrasing previously but found it diminishes the concept. permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 month ago The lack of want is horrible to live with. permalink fedilink source parent
[+] jnod4@lemmy.ca -21 points 1 month ago (3 children) Try having more money and those excuses vanish permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 1 month ago Just buy another wife? Wtf permalink fedilink source parent [–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 1 month ago (1 child) So you're saying that ... a woman's partner having more money ... makes them... decisive? Like, inherently? ... or because women only want to do things that cost a significant amount of money, and give noncommital answers when such money is not present? I am genuienly trying to follow the logic here. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jnod4@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 month ago* (1 child) I respect that you're the only person to actually dig deeper into my remark. I think it's both and neither of those at the same time. Love and appreciation cannot coexist with squalor, misery and poverty that is present in today's common marital home. A wife (or husband) would be more receptive if we all didn't had to work vast amounts of overtime to live in our tiny houses. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) I broadly agree with that, but phrasing it as you originally did... leaves open the potential of many interpretations, and is thus... well in this context, inherently inflammatory. Such as the interpretation of basically 'all women want only money or expensive things/experiences'. I would say that love can exist amidst squalor, but certainly the poverty makes it much, much more rare and difficult achieve or maintain. I'm not going to tell you gold diggers do not exist, or that many women are not broadly financially illiterate, irresponsible, or that many women are not vain. But many of them are none of those things, many men are. Qualified statements are probably a better plan with uh, high conflict topics. permalink fedilink source parent [–] derek@infosec.pub 10 points 1 month ago (1 child) It has nothing to do with money. This is something people will struggle with sans agriculture and in a perfect gift economy utopia. Only boring people are bored (and depression is not boredom). permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] nature_man@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 month ago (2 children) depression can very much make you become bored by things you used to like, its called anhedonia and it doesnt always go away even after some pretty intensive treatments, or even if the depression itself is managed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] derek@infosec.pub 4 points 1 month ago I've separated them purposefully because I think there's an important semantic distinction. The boredom you describe is driven by disinterest due to neurochemical dysfunction. That's distinct from boredom as a state of mind which assumes or asserts that curiosity, entertainment, etc, are presented and consumed. There is not necessarily a chemical imbalance imposing this state on the mind. If you like, you could reword the sentiment as; only boring people are bored (and those with depression are not necessarily boring). I've considered that phrasing previously but found it diminishes the concept. permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 month ago The lack of want is horrible to live with. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 1 month ago Just buy another wife? Wtf permalink fedilink source parent
[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 1 month ago (1 child) So you're saying that ... a woman's partner having more money ... makes them... decisive? Like, inherently? ... or because women only want to do things that cost a significant amount of money, and give noncommital answers when such money is not present? I am genuienly trying to follow the logic here. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] jnod4@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 month ago* (1 child) I respect that you're the only person to actually dig deeper into my remark. I think it's both and neither of those at the same time. Love and appreciation cannot coexist with squalor, misery and poverty that is present in today's common marital home. A wife (or husband) would be more receptive if we all didn't had to work vast amounts of overtime to live in our tiny houses. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) I broadly agree with that, but phrasing it as you originally did... leaves open the potential of many interpretations, and is thus... well in this context, inherently inflammatory. Such as the interpretation of basically 'all women want only money or expensive things/experiences'. I would say that love can exist amidst squalor, but certainly the poverty makes it much, much more rare and difficult achieve or maintain. I'm not going to tell you gold diggers do not exist, or that many women are not broadly financially illiterate, irresponsible, or that many women are not vain. But many of them are none of those things, many men are. Qualified statements are probably a better plan with uh, high conflict topics. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] jnod4@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 month ago* (1 child) I respect that you're the only person to actually dig deeper into my remark. I think it's both and neither of those at the same time. Love and appreciation cannot coexist with squalor, misery and poverty that is present in today's common marital home. A wife (or husband) would be more receptive if we all didn't had to work vast amounts of overtime to live in our tiny houses. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) I broadly agree with that, but phrasing it as you originally did... leaves open the potential of many interpretations, and is thus... well in this context, inherently inflammatory. Such as the interpretation of basically 'all women want only money or expensive things/experiences'. I would say that love can exist amidst squalor, but certainly the poverty makes it much, much more rare and difficult achieve or maintain. I'm not going to tell you gold diggers do not exist, or that many women are not broadly financially illiterate, irresponsible, or that many women are not vain. But many of them are none of those things, many men are. Qualified statements are probably a better plan with uh, high conflict topics. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) I broadly agree with that, but phrasing it as you originally did... leaves open the potential of many interpretations, and is thus... well in this context, inherently inflammatory. Such as the interpretation of basically 'all women want only money or expensive things/experiences'. I would say that love can exist amidst squalor, but certainly the poverty makes it much, much more rare and difficult achieve or maintain. I'm not going to tell you gold diggers do not exist, or that many women are not broadly financially illiterate, irresponsible, or that many women are not vain. But many of them are none of those things, many men are. Qualified statements are probably a better plan with uh, high conflict topics. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] derek@infosec.pub 10 points 1 month ago (1 child) It has nothing to do with money. This is something people will struggle with sans agriculture and in a perfect gift economy utopia. Only boring people are bored (and depression is not boredom). permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] nature_man@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 month ago (2 children) depression can very much make you become bored by things you used to like, its called anhedonia and it doesnt always go away even after some pretty intensive treatments, or even if the depression itself is managed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] derek@infosec.pub 4 points 1 month ago I've separated them purposefully because I think there's an important semantic distinction. The boredom you describe is driven by disinterest due to neurochemical dysfunction. That's distinct from boredom as a state of mind which assumes or asserts that curiosity, entertainment, etc, are presented and consumed. There is not necessarily a chemical imbalance imposing this state on the mind. If you like, you could reword the sentiment as; only boring people are bored (and those with depression are not necessarily boring). I've considered that phrasing previously but found it diminishes the concept. permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 month ago The lack of want is horrible to live with. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] nature_man@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 month ago (2 children) depression can very much make you become bored by things you used to like, its called anhedonia and it doesnt always go away even after some pretty intensive treatments, or even if the depression itself is managed. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] derek@infosec.pub 4 points 1 month ago I've separated them purposefully because I think there's an important semantic distinction. The boredom you describe is driven by disinterest due to neurochemical dysfunction. That's distinct from boredom as a state of mind which assumes or asserts that curiosity, entertainment, etc, are presented and consumed. There is not necessarily a chemical imbalance imposing this state on the mind. If you like, you could reword the sentiment as; only boring people are bored (and those with depression are not necessarily boring). I've considered that phrasing previously but found it diminishes the concept. permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 month ago The lack of want is horrible to live with. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] derek@infosec.pub 4 points 1 month ago I've separated them purposefully because I think there's an important semantic distinction. The boredom you describe is driven by disinterest due to neurochemical dysfunction. That's distinct from boredom as a state of mind which assumes or asserts that curiosity, entertainment, etc, are presented and consumed. There is not necessarily a chemical imbalance imposing this state on the mind. If you like, you could reword the sentiment as; only boring people are bored (and those with depression are not necessarily boring). I've considered that phrasing previously but found it diminishes the concept. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 1 point 1 month ago The lack of want is horrible to live with. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 19 points 1 month ago (1 child) Yeah, that's totally how it works. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] DaGeek247@fedia.io 5 points 1 month ago (1 child) It is in a healthy relationship. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] rants_unnecessarily@piefed.social 7 points 1 month ago (1 child) No. In a healthy relationship you understand when the other one needs their me time and support them with it. That includes video games. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] DaGeek247@fedia.io 3 points 1 month ago That another way that healthy relationships can work, yes. But yours is not the only way. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] DaGeek247@fedia.io 5 points 1 month ago (1 child) It is in a healthy relationship. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] rants_unnecessarily@piefed.social 7 points 1 month ago (1 child) No. In a healthy relationship you understand when the other one needs their me time and support them with it. That includes video games. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] DaGeek247@fedia.io 3 points 1 month ago That another way that healthy relationships can work, yes. But yours is not the only way. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] rants_unnecessarily@piefed.social 7 points 1 month ago (1 child) No. In a healthy relationship you understand when the other one needs their me time and support them with it. That includes video games. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] DaGeek247@fedia.io 3 points 1 month ago That another way that healthy relationships can work, yes. But yours is not the only way. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] DaGeek247@fedia.io 3 points 1 month ago That another way that healthy relationships can work, yes. But yours is not the only way. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 month ago (1 child) She wants you to know what she wants so she doesn't have to do the work figuring it out, because she wants to be a child again. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 27 points 1 month ago (2 children) My wife hates that she "always has to pick the restaurant," when we go out. I cant make her realize she shot down my first 3 suggestions before asking what she wanted. Yes you pick because everything i suggest you dont want tonight and ill eat everything. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] BeUnique@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 month ago I listened to the "I don't care just get whatever" response once. So, I did. It uh, didn't well as I knew it wouldn't. I wasn't being a dick about it either, just got what I know she'd want from a restaurant we frequent... She wasn't happy about it because I didn't read her mind and know that she didn't want that kind of food at that moment... Sometimes there's no winning. permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works -2 points 1 month ago (1 child) She can't figure out what she wants and wants you to solve it, exactly. She has to pick because she wants to want the answers you give but she doesn't. What's it like for you to have to go through this repeatedly, does she know or care? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 13 points 1 month ago (3 children) Ive gotten over itnas best i can. The worst is when i cook something, and she decides thats not what she wants, so she cooks something else for herself. But she also gets upset that she does most of the cooking. Like yeah no shit. I dont need praise from you for everything i do, but less negative reinforcement would go a long way. Therapy is helping though. I can hear it in the way she talks to our kids about life and how to treat others. So the realization is coming through permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] postcapitalism@lemmy.today 3 points 1 month ago Rooting for you too permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago (1 child) Sounds like the world isn't meeting her needs and she's bitter she has to meet her own. Sounds rough man, I feel for ya. So many men deal with wives and girlfriends like this. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] architect 0 points 1 month ago (1 child) Yall live with a high level of privilege and entitlement. If that’s all you have to complain about. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago Relative to what? Why does men sharing difficulties mean those are the only ones? You sound like a wife trying to gaslight her husband about how good he actually has it while she abuses him... permalink fedilink source parent [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca -2 points 1 month ago (2 children) More patient than me. I just got the divorce and now my ex and I are both happier. Man I remember telling her one day when she came downstairs and I was feeding our newly diabetic son pancakes with syrup for breakfast and hearing "what are you doing? His blood sugar will go high?". I stopped told her we would give him more insulin and then gave up and told here it was why I asked for a divorce. At no point was there a good morning. It was right into what I was doing and how it was wrong. God forbid we parent different. Long story short I've put a lot of work in with the kids and they have every other week with me and I am doing my best to correct the issues created from our 10 years of marriage. Is she aware? I don't think so. Even when she has the kids they still come to my house and I still have them for sleepovers. They don't do the same with her. In a way I feel sad for her. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] architect 4 points 1 month ago (1 child) No shit they don’t do the same with her. You give them freedoms she doesn’t and she has to be the parent. Any kid will go to the less responsible parent for being more “fun”. The example you gave, we will presume it’s the worst of your complaints, And it’s such a non complaint it seems ridiculous you’d use it as an example. You gave your diabetic child pure sugar and you’re blaming your ex for giving a shit about that?! You can’t be real. You can’t seriously think doing shit like that then expecting a constant smiling happy wife to come thank you for doing it! Go get yourself a trad wife who doesn’t work if you want to weirdly abuse your kids or grow the fuck up before you trick another woman into dealing with a man baby. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago Oh sweet Jesus a few things. A child is allowed to enjoy waffles and syrup once in a while. I have more rules in my house than she does in hers You're completely talking out of your ass making assumptions off of a single Lemmy comment. Jesus Christ talk about taking a comment from 0 to 100. Do you feel better driving the car off the edge of reason? permalink fedilink source parent [–] Tenthrow@lemmy.world 1 point 1 month ago (1 child) You'll just give him more insulin? There's a lesson that could shave decades of his lifespan. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago* Um you realize a T1D can't produce insulin right? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 27 points 1 month ago (2 children) My wife hates that she "always has to pick the restaurant," when we go out. I cant make her realize she shot down my first 3 suggestions before asking what she wanted. Yes you pick because everything i suggest you dont want tonight and ill eat everything. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] BeUnique@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 month ago I listened to the "I don't care just get whatever" response once. So, I did. It uh, didn't well as I knew it wouldn't. I wasn't being a dick about it either, just got what I know she'd want from a restaurant we frequent... She wasn't happy about it because I didn't read her mind and know that she didn't want that kind of food at that moment... Sometimes there's no winning. permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works -2 points 1 month ago (1 child) She can't figure out what she wants and wants you to solve it, exactly. She has to pick because she wants to want the answers you give but she doesn't. What's it like for you to have to go through this repeatedly, does she know or care? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 13 points 1 month ago (3 children) Ive gotten over itnas best i can. The worst is when i cook something, and she decides thats not what she wants, so she cooks something else for herself. But she also gets upset that she does most of the cooking. Like yeah no shit. I dont need praise from you for everything i do, but less negative reinforcement would go a long way. Therapy is helping though. I can hear it in the way she talks to our kids about life and how to treat others. So the realization is coming through permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] postcapitalism@lemmy.today 3 points 1 month ago Rooting for you too permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago (1 child) Sounds like the world isn't meeting her needs and she's bitter she has to meet her own. Sounds rough man, I feel for ya. So many men deal with wives and girlfriends like this. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] architect 0 points 1 month ago (1 child) Yall live with a high level of privilege and entitlement. If that’s all you have to complain about. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago Relative to what? Why does men sharing difficulties mean those are the only ones? You sound like a wife trying to gaslight her husband about how good he actually has it while she abuses him... permalink fedilink source parent [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca -2 points 1 month ago (2 children) More patient than me. I just got the divorce and now my ex and I are both happier. Man I remember telling her one day when she came downstairs and I was feeding our newly diabetic son pancakes with syrup for breakfast and hearing "what are you doing? His blood sugar will go high?". I stopped told her we would give him more insulin and then gave up and told here it was why I asked for a divorce. At no point was there a good morning. It was right into what I was doing and how it was wrong. God forbid we parent different. Long story short I've put a lot of work in with the kids and they have every other week with me and I am doing my best to correct the issues created from our 10 years of marriage. Is she aware? I don't think so. Even when she has the kids they still come to my house and I still have them for sleepovers. They don't do the same with her. In a way I feel sad for her. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] architect 4 points 1 month ago (1 child) No shit they don’t do the same with her. You give them freedoms she doesn’t and she has to be the parent. Any kid will go to the less responsible parent for being more “fun”. The example you gave, we will presume it’s the worst of your complaints, And it’s such a non complaint it seems ridiculous you’d use it as an example. You gave your diabetic child pure sugar and you’re blaming your ex for giving a shit about that?! You can’t be real. You can’t seriously think doing shit like that then expecting a constant smiling happy wife to come thank you for doing it! Go get yourself a trad wife who doesn’t work if you want to weirdly abuse your kids or grow the fuck up before you trick another woman into dealing with a man baby. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago Oh sweet Jesus a few things. A child is allowed to enjoy waffles and syrup once in a while. I have more rules in my house than she does in hers You're completely talking out of your ass making assumptions off of a single Lemmy comment. Jesus Christ talk about taking a comment from 0 to 100. Do you feel better driving the car off the edge of reason? permalink fedilink source parent [–] Tenthrow@lemmy.world 1 point 1 month ago (1 child) You'll just give him more insulin? There's a lesson that could shave decades of his lifespan. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago* Um you realize a T1D can't produce insulin right? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] BeUnique@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 month ago I listened to the "I don't care just get whatever" response once. So, I did. It uh, didn't well as I knew it wouldn't. I wasn't being a dick about it either, just got what I know she'd want from a restaurant we frequent... She wasn't happy about it because I didn't read her mind and know that she didn't want that kind of food at that moment... Sometimes there's no winning. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works -2 points 1 month ago (1 child) She can't figure out what she wants and wants you to solve it, exactly. She has to pick because she wants to want the answers you give but she doesn't. What's it like for you to have to go through this repeatedly, does she know or care? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 13 points 1 month ago (3 children) Ive gotten over itnas best i can. The worst is when i cook something, and she decides thats not what she wants, so she cooks something else for herself. But she also gets upset that she does most of the cooking. Like yeah no shit. I dont need praise from you for everything i do, but less negative reinforcement would go a long way. Therapy is helping though. I can hear it in the way she talks to our kids about life and how to treat others. So the realization is coming through permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] postcapitalism@lemmy.today 3 points 1 month ago Rooting for you too permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago (1 child) Sounds like the world isn't meeting her needs and she's bitter she has to meet her own. Sounds rough man, I feel for ya. So many men deal with wives and girlfriends like this. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] architect 0 points 1 month ago (1 child) Yall live with a high level of privilege and entitlement. If that’s all you have to complain about. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago Relative to what? Why does men sharing difficulties mean those are the only ones? You sound like a wife trying to gaslight her husband about how good he actually has it while she abuses him... permalink fedilink source parent [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca -2 points 1 month ago (2 children) More patient than me. I just got the divorce and now my ex and I are both happier. Man I remember telling her one day when she came downstairs and I was feeding our newly diabetic son pancakes with syrup for breakfast and hearing "what are you doing? His blood sugar will go high?". I stopped told her we would give him more insulin and then gave up and told here it was why I asked for a divorce. At no point was there a good morning. It was right into what I was doing and how it was wrong. God forbid we parent different. Long story short I've put a lot of work in with the kids and they have every other week with me and I am doing my best to correct the issues created from our 10 years of marriage. Is she aware? I don't think so. Even when she has the kids they still come to my house and I still have them for sleepovers. They don't do the same with her. In a way I feel sad for her. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] architect 4 points 1 month ago (1 child) No shit they don’t do the same with her. You give them freedoms she doesn’t and she has to be the parent. Any kid will go to the less responsible parent for being more “fun”. The example you gave, we will presume it’s the worst of your complaints, And it’s such a non complaint it seems ridiculous you’d use it as an example. You gave your diabetic child pure sugar and you’re blaming your ex for giving a shit about that?! You can’t be real. You can’t seriously think doing shit like that then expecting a constant smiling happy wife to come thank you for doing it! Go get yourself a trad wife who doesn’t work if you want to weirdly abuse your kids or grow the fuck up before you trick another woman into dealing with a man baby. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago Oh sweet Jesus a few things. A child is allowed to enjoy waffles and syrup once in a while. I have more rules in my house than she does in hers You're completely talking out of your ass making assumptions off of a single Lemmy comment. Jesus Christ talk about taking a comment from 0 to 100. Do you feel better driving the car off the edge of reason? permalink fedilink source parent [–] Tenthrow@lemmy.world 1 point 1 month ago (1 child) You'll just give him more insulin? There's a lesson that could shave decades of his lifespan. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago* Um you realize a T1D can't produce insulin right? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 13 points 1 month ago (3 children) Ive gotten over itnas best i can. The worst is when i cook something, and she decides thats not what she wants, so she cooks something else for herself. But she also gets upset that she does most of the cooking. Like yeah no shit. I dont need praise from you for everything i do, but less negative reinforcement would go a long way. Therapy is helping though. I can hear it in the way she talks to our kids about life and how to treat others. So the realization is coming through permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] postcapitalism@lemmy.today 3 points 1 month ago Rooting for you too permalink fedilink source parent [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago (1 child) Sounds like the world isn't meeting her needs and she's bitter she has to meet her own. Sounds rough man, I feel for ya. So many men deal with wives and girlfriends like this. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] architect 0 points 1 month ago (1 child) Yall live with a high level of privilege and entitlement. If that’s all you have to complain about. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago Relative to what? Why does men sharing difficulties mean those are the only ones? You sound like a wife trying to gaslight her husband about how good he actually has it while she abuses him... permalink fedilink source parent [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca -2 points 1 month ago (2 children) More patient than me. I just got the divorce and now my ex and I are both happier. Man I remember telling her one day when she came downstairs and I was feeding our newly diabetic son pancakes with syrup for breakfast and hearing "what are you doing? His blood sugar will go high?". I stopped told her we would give him more insulin and then gave up and told here it was why I asked for a divorce. At no point was there a good morning. It was right into what I was doing and how it was wrong. God forbid we parent different. Long story short I've put a lot of work in with the kids and they have every other week with me and I am doing my best to correct the issues created from our 10 years of marriage. Is she aware? I don't think so. Even when she has the kids they still come to my house and I still have them for sleepovers. They don't do the same with her. In a way I feel sad for her. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] architect 4 points 1 month ago (1 child) No shit they don’t do the same with her. You give them freedoms she doesn’t and she has to be the parent. Any kid will go to the less responsible parent for being more “fun”. The example you gave, we will presume it’s the worst of your complaints, And it’s such a non complaint it seems ridiculous you’d use it as an example. You gave your diabetic child pure sugar and you’re blaming your ex for giving a shit about that?! You can’t be real. You can’t seriously think doing shit like that then expecting a constant smiling happy wife to come thank you for doing it! Go get yourself a trad wife who doesn’t work if you want to weirdly abuse your kids or grow the fuck up before you trick another woman into dealing with a man baby. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago Oh sweet Jesus a few things. A child is allowed to enjoy waffles and syrup once in a while. I have more rules in my house than she does in hers You're completely talking out of your ass making assumptions off of a single Lemmy comment. Jesus Christ talk about taking a comment from 0 to 100. Do you feel better driving the car off the edge of reason? permalink fedilink source parent [–] Tenthrow@lemmy.world 1 point 1 month ago (1 child) You'll just give him more insulin? There's a lesson that could shave decades of his lifespan. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago* Um you realize a T1D can't produce insulin right? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] postcapitalism@lemmy.today 3 points 1 month ago Rooting for you too permalink fedilink source parent
[–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago (1 child) Sounds like the world isn't meeting her needs and she's bitter she has to meet her own. Sounds rough man, I feel for ya. So many men deal with wives and girlfriends like this. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] architect 0 points 1 month ago (1 child) Yall live with a high level of privilege and entitlement. If that’s all you have to complain about. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago Relative to what? Why does men sharing difficulties mean those are the only ones? You sound like a wife trying to gaslight her husband about how good he actually has it while she abuses him... permalink fedilink source parent
[–] architect 0 points 1 month ago (1 child) Yall live with a high level of privilege and entitlement. If that’s all you have to complain about. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago Relative to what? Why does men sharing difficulties mean those are the only ones? You sound like a wife trying to gaslight her husband about how good he actually has it while she abuses him... permalink fedilink source parent
[–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago Relative to what? Why does men sharing difficulties mean those are the only ones? You sound like a wife trying to gaslight her husband about how good he actually has it while she abuses him... permalink fedilink source parent
[–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca -2 points 1 month ago (2 children) More patient than me. I just got the divorce and now my ex and I are both happier. Man I remember telling her one day when she came downstairs and I was feeding our newly diabetic son pancakes with syrup for breakfast and hearing "what are you doing? His blood sugar will go high?". I stopped told her we would give him more insulin and then gave up and told here it was why I asked for a divorce. At no point was there a good morning. It was right into what I was doing and how it was wrong. God forbid we parent different. Long story short I've put a lot of work in with the kids and they have every other week with me and I am doing my best to correct the issues created from our 10 years of marriage. Is she aware? I don't think so. Even when she has the kids they still come to my house and I still have them for sleepovers. They don't do the same with her. In a way I feel sad for her. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 4 child comments replies: [–] architect 4 points 1 month ago (1 child) No shit they don’t do the same with her. You give them freedoms she doesn’t and she has to be the parent. Any kid will go to the less responsible parent for being more “fun”. The example you gave, we will presume it’s the worst of your complaints, And it’s such a non complaint it seems ridiculous you’d use it as an example. You gave your diabetic child pure sugar and you’re blaming your ex for giving a shit about that?! You can’t be real. You can’t seriously think doing shit like that then expecting a constant smiling happy wife to come thank you for doing it! Go get yourself a trad wife who doesn’t work if you want to weirdly abuse your kids or grow the fuck up before you trick another woman into dealing with a man baby. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago Oh sweet Jesus a few things. A child is allowed to enjoy waffles and syrup once in a while. I have more rules in my house than she does in hers You're completely talking out of your ass making assumptions off of a single Lemmy comment. Jesus Christ talk about taking a comment from 0 to 100. Do you feel better driving the car off the edge of reason? permalink fedilink source parent [–] Tenthrow@lemmy.world 1 point 1 month ago (1 child) You'll just give him more insulin? There's a lesson that could shave decades of his lifespan. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago* Um you realize a T1D can't produce insulin right? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] architect 4 points 1 month ago (1 child) No shit they don’t do the same with her. You give them freedoms she doesn’t and she has to be the parent. Any kid will go to the less responsible parent for being more “fun”. The example you gave, we will presume it’s the worst of your complaints, And it’s such a non complaint it seems ridiculous you’d use it as an example. You gave your diabetic child pure sugar and you’re blaming your ex for giving a shit about that?! You can’t be real. You can’t seriously think doing shit like that then expecting a constant smiling happy wife to come thank you for doing it! Go get yourself a trad wife who doesn’t work if you want to weirdly abuse your kids or grow the fuck up before you trick another woman into dealing with a man baby. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago Oh sweet Jesus a few things. A child is allowed to enjoy waffles and syrup once in a while. I have more rules in my house than she does in hers You're completely talking out of your ass making assumptions off of a single Lemmy comment. Jesus Christ talk about taking a comment from 0 to 100. Do you feel better driving the car off the edge of reason? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago Oh sweet Jesus a few things. A child is allowed to enjoy waffles and syrup once in a while. I have more rules in my house than she does in hers You're completely talking out of your ass making assumptions off of a single Lemmy comment. Jesus Christ talk about taking a comment from 0 to 100. Do you feel better driving the car off the edge of reason? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Tenthrow@lemmy.world 1 point 1 month ago (1 child) You'll just give him more insulin? There's a lesson that could shave decades of his lifespan. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago* Um you realize a T1D can't produce insulin right? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago* Um you realize a T1D can't produce insulin right? permalink fedilink source parent
[–] wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago Maybe they should have expanded on their 'nah' then permalink fedilink source parent
[+] comador@lemmy.world -6 points 1 month ago Happy wife, happy life. permalink fedilink source parent