And some more of his, in the context the west missunderstanding China (related to this article):

But the starting point of understanding anyone - a person, a culture, a civilization - has to be listening to what they actually say, not deciding in advance that it's all a performance. You can be critical after you've listened. You can't be critical instead of listening. Otherwise you end up in exactly the situation we're currently in with China: in perpetual surprise at everything they do, because - guess what - they don't act upon our caricature of them but, like all of us, upon their own self-understanding.

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For instance, in the 1970s, game theorist Anatol Rapoport wrote (anatolrapoport.net/2023…) that "a pre-requisite in a genuine debate is a complete understanding by each of the opponents of the other’s position. The criterion for such understanding must be not one’s own feeling that one has understood the other’s position but the other’s feeling that his position has been completely understood."

Of which the latter is something everyone should try to emulate if trying to engage in actual fruitful discussion.