Hi everyone,
I want to write more and hopefully get better, but I got really turned off from writing coms by what I heard and saw on Discord and 
. I am looking for a group where I don't receive unnecessarily caustic/bitter/passive-aggressive criticism for mistakes, especially since english is not my first language and I am probably not the most innovative/daring writer around (I just wanna write fantasy). If you need an example of stuff I take issue with, look at the r/writingcirclejerk mega and reccs for what turns me off.
I get that you have to show your stuff to other people eventually and get criticism for your mistakes, but I would prefer a space that is not so emotionally frustrating, lowkey to highkey transphobic/ableist etc etc. I get screamed at and have to deal with condescending assholes enough on the job/politics. I don't want that in something that is supposed to be FUN.
Do you have any recommendations for online groups or places that are relaxed, ND- and trans-friendly? They should still offer criticism and not white lie about things. Becoming "Better" means avoiding clear, objective mistakes, better structure, producing enjoyable, if not super groundbreaking works of fictions in the english language.
I don't want any "the world is hard, you have to be hard on yourself, you should suck it up" shit. There has to be a less gnarly way.
Thank you so much (insert unobtrusive, yet friendly heart emoji here)
No, thanks, I appreciate all you have said. I am not hostile to a systematic view on this, I want to write bc I need to express myself somehow, I will be happy when somebody reads it at all and doesnt throw it away, really. I think the least nasty way to approach writing is from the perspective of self expression and some small form of recognition. Of course, some people rely on it for making money, which is just how it is. In that case I have understood it is soul quenching production of treats for bored middle class ppl or bourgs who don't know libgen and love cishet detective novels where virgins get (insert CW here) for drama.
Since I was being pretty vague, I am talking more not wanting shit like
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"Of course AMABs write about violence" "Can you even read?" "I doubt you will ever write something worth publishing" "You should go back to elementary"I am somewhat fragile bc of trauma and shit that happened to other people around me and I dont want any more mental wounds n that area, maybe I am paranoid. I can live with artistic rejection. I don't need to put communism allegories or allusions inside things, I just wanna get my feelings and expressions out, this is not gonna push anybody to become a revolutionary cadre, this is just like me talking about my experiences
Regarding the spoiler, jesus christ, fuck anyone who says this shit to any writer (even though I just wrote like three pages complaining about writers). I’d be happy to read your work and provide positive feedback in this writing group, if you decide to make it.