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How did people treat you after losing weight? (lemmy.world)
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Currently down about 120lbs after 8 years of going up and down. Net loss is 200lbs, given I had some regains over the years. Now, I'm down from 300lbs to 178lbs and ever since I passed 185lbs, I've had a lot more oppurtunities with women.

It feels weird, not gonna lie, it just sorta happened out of nowhere. A lot more women smile at me, talk to me, and look at me more. The attention I started getting just feels like a glimpse really. Not massive amounts, but noticably more. I'm still 10lbs away from being done entirely, as I do still look a bit husky at 178lbs.

Though, it's not just women, but people in general have been treating me better, even strangers. I will finally reach normal weight for the first time ever in the next couple weeks (173lbs according to my BMI) and I can't be more excited to finally see it!

For those who lost weight, what was it like for you? Did people start treating you differently?

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[–] 1 point 2 months ago (2 children)

You completely missed my point, I'm sorry. Yes, I feel good being a manly man. Yes, if that is what you are and want to be, you deserve to feel good as well.

I have worked with some breaks since high school, including a handful ofnodd summer jobs in construction, and I have not had a single job that a reasonably fit woman could not do as well.

Plus, nowadays there are plenty of women in trades and industry. Sadly, mostly in "womanly" stuff like gardening/landscaping, which again to me shows that this is not a physical issue, but a societal / psychological one.

Besides, why should I be proud of a random construction worker breaking his back 100 years ago? That's like saying I am proud of being born in the same city as some famous poet. Not my achievement, not even my era. Yeah, Albert Einstein once visited the college I went to, do I get to be proud?

And physical strength has not really been the dominant factor for serious protection in a long time, at least not in the military. A drone does nor care who steers it, and neither does a gun care who shoots it.

As I said, it is not a fucking championship. Everyone deserves happiness, "I am proud because I am born male/female/white/black/straight/gay/..." just pisses me off. Do something good with your life, and be proud of that, for fucks sake.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago (1 child)

    Yes, everyone deserves happiness. I think you are reading more into what I said than what is there. It's not a competition.

    Physical strength will sometimes be useful. I dont think I missed your point since I said in what situations it's useful, and then men needs to protect women. You disagree with that?

    And yes today plenty of women in those jobs. I was talking about before. What has already been built.

    I agree with you about mostly everything. Women can do most jobs today that men can. Just not everything. And my point was about protecting, not working. Women cant protect themselves against a strong man. They need help from other men.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago

    You disagree with that?

    Mostly yes. Guns are a thing now. Female cops are around 1/4 here. I fucking hate how female soldiers are not conscripted, you enjoy the freedoms in your country, you should have to protect it if shit goes south.

    Now, if we talk about wrestling a drunk guy into handcuffs, that is one of the few things where peak physical strength is required. But I'd argue it is less about protecting the cop or the public, but rather the drunk guy from itself, since otherwise we could just shoot a drunk trouble maker.

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