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Whenever I tell someone that I wish i was shorter, they are always taken a back(being masculine presenting). I am just over 6 ft, in my country, that's a bit above average height. Its not like I am a gaint or anything but I am always aware how intimidating I look. Also, the country where I live doesn't feel like it build for people my size. Mini-van for transportation that squish my knees, ceiling that are a bit too low for my taste, showers space that's too small.

But also, I feel like a bumbling idiot (I suspect I have Dysprixa) and hate standing out so much. I may have Body dysmorphia. Its like how I would like to be seen and how I feel, are the exact opposite to how I seen. I feel small, soft, in a relationship, I would prefer to take on the "feminine " role. I feel nothing like a man.

Anyone else relates to this.

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[-] canyoubringmesunrise@lemmy.world 30 points 16 hours ago

Not a man, but I used to wish I were shorter when I was younger. I’m 178 cm, which is very tall for a woman in China, so people always stare at me when I’m out in public. Men either feel intimidated or assume they have no chance, so they don’t approach me. Over time, though, I grew to love the attention, and now all of those insecurities are gone. I even developed my own little supermodel walk and rock high heels now, lmao. I love feeling like I’m on a runway while walking around and having people look at me.

[-] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 15 hours ago

Same height as me ... I'm above average in Europe, but here in Vietnam most men only come up to my chin. I hugged one of the managers at work during Lunar New Year, and he ended up in my boobs, lol

I'm glad you enjoy the attention, there are times I'd like to be able to blend in TBH. Rocking heels and towering over most men is fantastic as an option, too >:-)

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