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Anon carpools (thelemmy.club)
submitted 4 months ago by [M] to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works
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[–] 102 points 4 months ago (16 children)

I'd pay the 0.50 euro as soon a possible without a word.

Then never offer to drive to do anything with them again.

I've found that people who do this are either doing it as a joke and will let you know right away .... or they are dead serious and it's the kind of person you really want to avoid in every kind of way.

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  • [–] 18 points 4 months ago

    Eh. Yeah, but at least you know where you stand with them, and everything will be strictly business. If there's some business-like value to keeping the relationship, then just treat it like a business relationship, and see how it goes. I wouldn't bail on someone like this for that alone, but I wouldn't hang out with them as friends either.

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  • [–] 8 points 4 months ago* (12 children)

    Or maybe it's just cultural differences with a pinch of autism. TBH I'm not quite clear on how "Dutch" the guy in OP's story is or where this even takes place, but AFAIK this would be completely normal behavior among friends and acquaintances in the Netherlands.

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  • [–] 41 points 4 months ago (10 children)

    As a Dutch person , I have heard of behaviour like this before, but I wouldn't consider it normal. Most dutch people would consider this asshole behavior. If you offer something, either you name a price up front or you don't get anything for it.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago (7 children)

    Question for you (completely off topic from your conversation with the other person). How believable is this story without broodje hagelslag being served? I need to know how accurate my Dutch lessons are.

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  • [–] 10 points 4 months ago

    LOL, hagelslag is just something to put on your bread like peanut butter or cheese. Some like it, some don't, but I wouldn't offer a coworker breakfast if they were to pick me up for work.

    On-topic; this story is the kind of thing you hear about, but never experience. It's something that could almost happen, but you'd have to be a cheap skate by Dutch standards to actually do this.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    Ik heb geen hagelslag in huis. Wel koffie. Ik zou een collega wel koffie aanbieden, maar geen Tikkie sturen.

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    Dankjewel, ook geen koekjes?

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Is asking for money for coffee in your home not considered assholish prima fascia in the Netherlands?

    Here in the US within the bounds of the home food and drink that is offered is expected to be a gift, and if you charge for anything it's admission to a party or you pass a hat around for people to pay what they can. Typically though it's either basic hospitality for small things or you should give in kind (bring a dish or some alcohol to share) for parties.

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago

    Yep, exactly.

    If they can have a sense of humor about it, probably a decent, if cheeky, somewhat assholish, but maybe in an endearing / self-aware way, kind of person.

    If they cannot?

    Avoid avoid avoid avoid avoid.

    They're an entitled manipulator, and have absolutely no respect for you.

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