That comes from a lifetime of being misinterpreted. If everything you say from when you're a teen until your late twenties gets taken in a million different ways other than that you intended, you start to over analyze the response to every question you give, you need to be able to anticipate every way that neurotypicals will misunderstand you and mitigate against it.

And no, neurotypicals do not consider such things, because that experience rarely if ever happens to them.

Personally, I assume the receptor will interpret the message in the best way possible. It's hardly at all possible to say something that can't be taken the wrong way if the receptor is keen on starting a fight.

Do neurotypicals really not consider such things?

I wouldn't know.

I feel like anything I ever say I think through a million different ways it might be taken.

Same, and often I'm still blindsided by the way it ends up getting taken. What's worse is that my mitigating steps get mistaken even worse!

We consider it, but briefly, as our brain throwing it out as irrelevant and out of context.